Turns out my last post wouldn't be my last because I am single and back in the field. 

I have a very simple round of questions that would give me peace of mind.

I have a regular whom I've seen multiple times, but we've really only done protected stuff and even then we've never done penetrative sex. Most I do is unprotected oral to him,  and have nothing really come up of it. (doesn't help he never really finishes , he just likes the feeling) 

Though the other day he did two things to me and I'd like to know the risks.

Before anything, I did not see anything on his genitals or mouth that looked suspicious. 

He said he was going to give me oral, and before I could stop him he liked my head for a tiny bit with his tongue, but never got into his mouth.  (he just stopped)

Another is when I was on all fours and he was just feeling me up, but before against my wishes, put his raw penis on my anus for a second or two before I backed off and ended the encounter .

I've long since cut him off because of his disrespect for consent for both these .

I just need risks for the majority of my listed actions. 

I really don't see any major risks for anything, sans the oral . 

Licking just the head and not putting it in his mouth would be the same as just using the saliva as lube right?  Least that's how I see it.

And that brief couple seconds with his penis on my anus wouldn't matter because 0 penetration, no sores, and 0 friction?

(See I've learned from you guys) 

Thanks again guys. May or not hear from me in the future.

I don't see much STD or HIV risk here. I agree with your own statements:  "I really don't see any major risks for anything, sans the oral." I agree, even with the brief oral-genital exposure.

"Licking just the head and not putting it in his mouth would be the same as just using the saliva as lube right?  Least that's how I see it." I agree with this as well. In fact, I like the analogy:  that brief oral contact of this sort is not significantly different than hand-genital contact with saliva as lubricant, which is risk free.

"And that brief couple seconds with his penis on my anus wouldn't matter because 0 penetration, no sores, and 0 friction?" Once again, I agree entirely. You indeed have learned something from your previous interactions with the forum. In fact, for the future, I would suggest you don't need to confirm with us each time you have a new sexual partner. So I'm inclined to agree you won't need our input in the future.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD