Also when they did the swab test for gono and chlam how are they sure that the swab they took is enough? Like he only took it from the back of my throat, what if it’s in the middle or what if the swab itself just didn’t pick it up and the infection was somewhere else? The doctor told me you can take antibiotics if you are that scared but I refused because I didn’t want to have resistance. Some of the guys I know don’t have anything but there are 2 out of the 6 that I’m mostly scared of because our genitals did rub for a bit and also because they sleep around A LOT so again I’m sure they had something because I doubt they get tested or care about others (they’ve shown that through their actions). 

Also for the HIV test and the rest of the tests I did, I don’t know what generation it was or anything like that. I just went to the Jewish hospital here (it’s a respectable hospital) although the tests were free (paid by the government I guess) so does that mean they are reliable? Or maybe they use a different test that’s not so reliable as the 4th gen? I never asked her what she used. The doctor was a bit surprised I was there too which shows me that he doesn’t really know the risk that I could’ve had something.  Sorry I’m asking a lot of questions but the way I’m living right now is just constant fear 

Welcome back to the Forum.  I'm sorry that you continue to worry.  Let me address your specific questions first:---

I really don’t want to interfere with the opinions of different MDs but I asked about genital to genital rubbing and I heard it is limited risk but not zero. There’s also a case of a girl who caught it that way. So I don’t know if I can say my encounters are not a risk for hsv-2.. but if you really think i don’t have it then that’s good, so the scenario of me passing it onto my future husband is fake? Also would you say there are no false negatives in the blot for hsv-2? 

I apologize if my earlier response was unclear.  Genital-genital rubbing (frottage) is a no risk exposure for acquisition of HIV and other STIs (this was indicated in our earlier interaction).  While there is theoretical risk that such activity might result in transmission of lesion diseases such as herpes (which your negative tests PROVE you do not have) or syphilis, this is theoretical in the same sense that it is theoretically possible that you will be struck by lightening while reading this response.  The U.S. CDC and the WHO as well as experts all agree that there is NO realistic risk for any STI, including HIV from frottage.  You are worrying unnecessarily.  EWH---

Well your replies are making me feel better but then I get instances where I remember for example in January (after 20 days from the last time I. Had genitAl contact  ) I had a red bump on my inner thigh and I only noticed it because I was looking at my body (it didn’t hurt) and then I squeezed it and white puss came out and then blood, and then it took a while to heal because I had damaged it. It also felt super hard so I am assuming it was just a boil? Surely if it was hsv-2 the blot would’ve been positive right? I don’t know how to get this out of my head it’s causing me major distress . Also I’m in Montreal , Canada. Thanks

Sigh.  You are really having trouble moving on, aren’t you.  The lesion you describe in no way suggests herpes and is a classical description, as well as a classical location for a boil.  I urge you to stopped reliving the past and going down a “ what if” rabbit hole.   Counseling is readily available in Montreal and is what would help you most, in my opinion.  Please seek counseling.---