Welcome back to the forum. Thanks for your continued confidence in our services. FYI, I scanned your discussion with Terri four months ago and agree with her replies and advice. Did you follow up with an HSV Western blot?
The event you describe was little or no risk -- probably zero risk -- for any and all STDs. No STDs or HIV are ever transmitted by hand-genital contact (no matter how vigorous), or by penile contact with skin (including breasts). Brief oral sex carries some risk, but low for all STDs and none for HIV. (Oral sex is much safer then vaginal or anal sex.) And the brevity of the contact further lowers any risk. A bit of "tooth scraping" is risk free, assuming no overt bite or tooth injury with bleeding. Finally, the very brief penile contact with your partner's vaginal area, without significant penetration, also carries little ir any risk. To your specific questions:
HIV? No risk, definitely not high enough to warrant PEP. Statistically it is unlikely a partner like yours has HIV; and when a female partner has HIV, even with entirely unprotected vaginal sex to completion, the average risk to her male parter is once for ever 2,500 exposures. Nobody has ever been known to be infected from the kinds of exposure you experienced. Honestly, I don't even advise HIV testing, unless you feel a negative test result will help relieve your fears, beyond what I can say.
HSV? Partly discussed with Terri. If you have HSV2, which I agree is possible if not confirmed by the test result you reported to her, you are immune to catching it again. If you had the WB and the results was negative for HSV2, you're still at very little risk from the events described. With vaginal sex to completion, IF your partner has HSV2, your risk would have been around one chance in a thousand of being infected. Considering the superficial nature of the exposures and the low chance she had active HSV2, your risk was exceedingly low. Your risk of HSV1 also was very low and only from the brief oral sex exposure.
HPV? My main response is that it doesn't matter. As a sexually active human, you have had HPV, probably more than once, and could still be carrying it. A new exposure of this sort does not significantly elevate your chance any higher than it was before. Anyway, there is no test for HPV in males.
As I said above, I would not recommend PEP. Not only is the risk nil for practical purposes, but there's a downside to PEP you might not have considered. PEP doesn't always work, so HIV testing is required afterward. With PEP, the window period clock starts with the last dose of anti-HIV drug, so you'd be in the situation of wondering and perhaps worrying for at least 10 weeks -- i.e. 4 weeks on drug, plus another 6 weeks to conclusive testing. How prepared are you for that much delay? If somehow I were in your situation, I might not even be tested for HIV and would continue unprotected sex with my wife without worry.
You don't mention the three main bacterial STDs. There's slight risk of gonorrhea from the brief oral exposure; and syphilis is transmitted skin-to-skin, so penetration isn't always required. I would suggest you have a syphilis blood test in 6 weeks, and you could consider a urine test for gonorrhea and chlamydia. Here too, the risks are very low, but not quite zero.
I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.
HHH, MD
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