[Question #10099] Assesmebt
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25 months ago
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If I were to have given a bj ( me female) to a friend and then a week later started a relationship with someone new- what are the odds I would have acquired an std such as chlamydia or gonorra from that bj and passed it on to my new partner? It’s been 16 weeks and we have had both oral and unprotected sex. He has no symptoms whatsoever
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
25 months ago
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Performing oral sex (fellatio) on a male, i.e having the penis in your mouth, is higher risk for some STDs than others. Oral gonorrhea is a risk, but if your BJ partner wasn't having painful urination or pus dripping from his penis, almost certainly he didn't have gonorrhea. Chlamydia is little or no risk: chlamydia doesn't take well to the throat and is extremely unlikely. Herpes due to HSV2 is possible, but not having had oral sores and blisters, or a severe sore throat, is good evidence you didn't catch herpes. Assuming your BJ partner isn't gay or trans, there is almost no chance of syphilis. There are no other significant STD risks from performing oral sex on male partners. So there is little chance you were infected with anything.
In addition, absence of symptoms in your more recent (16 weeks) partner is good evidence you have not transmitted an STD to him. And if you also have no symptoms, this also is reassuring: if you had infected your new partner, by now he likely would have reinfected you. Instead of only having oral infection (which usually causes no symptoms), you would now have genital infection as well, likely with abnormal vaginal discharge and perhaps other symptoms.
So all things considered, I see very low STD risk here. In fact, any risk that exists might come more from your new partner (of course depending in his sexual lifestyle before you became a couple).
Many new couples these days agree to mutual STD testing, for assurance neither one has brought an infection into the relationship and, sometimes, a gesture of mutual caring and respect. Assuming you both understand the other has had past sexual partners, you might discuss both being tested for these reasons. But not necessarily because you gave a BJ to your most recent previous partner.
I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.
HHH, MD
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