Hi Drs

Welcome back to the Forum although I'm sorry you felt the need.  Your follow up questions suggest that you have not been able to keep from searching the internet regarding both your and your partner's symptoms and that what you are seeing is continuing to lead you astray.  In response to your questions:---

Since the only site of exposure was your penis and your test was negative, you can be confident that this is not DGI.---

Thanks again Dr. I waited a few days to see how things pan out and although the burning and painful symptoms on my glans have eased up a little , I have started to develop very achey wrists and fingers esp knuckles with a lot of cramping and numbness. I can’t seem to get DGI out of my head esp as my partner has these symptoms. I may be going over old ground but I have read somewhere here that Gonorrhea may be missed on urine tests where it leads to DGI I think it was Dr Handsfield. 1. Is it possible that a urine test gives a negative result but could lead to DGI ? 2. Also I know it’s rare but would it be even more rare for us to both have it or if it was the same strain would that make sense that we would both have it . Timeline was she first had symptoms of arthritis but no others two weeks after SI and I started with symptoms of burning glans just over 48 hours after my exposure but the hand and wrist pain has only really started couple of days ago around a month after exposure . Although I have had numbness in either arm most nights since exposure . The only other thing I can think of is we both had a really bad stomach bug around two months ago before my exposure. 3. is it possible our symptoms are related to that, reactive arthritis affecting joints and in my case urethra as well as there is no discharge just burning/pain discomfort. 4.And lastly I am awaiting urologist appointment is DGI something they can or would look into and are there any specific tests to rule this out and are they are other signs that would indicate DGI or that I don’t have which makes it impossible I have it. Thanks  again really appreciate it  

The idea that you have gotten an STI from your low risk encounter and transmitted it to your partner during the time frame you describe is unfounded and unsupported by the fact, including the testing you have had.  I suspect you are wrestling with profound guilt, something that this forum cannot address.  I will reply to your final questions and then the thread will be closed.  You should not return as there is nothing more that I can tell you about your risk or to prove that you are not infected.  You need to figure out how to move forward and stop fixating on the unfounded possibility that you have gotten and STI and transmitted it to your partner to cause her symptoms.   Final replies:---

Thanks again Dr , I understand what you are saying and I am trying to accept the facts. I am definitely suffering from guilt/anxiety but this was after the symptoms began and am just trying to understand the symptoms and timeline to convince myself it’s just coincidence eg my wife’s symptoms or in my case non specific symptoms which have been exacerbated by anxiety/stress and heightened awareness. Because there has been no real discharge that should convince me but will work through the issues individually and try to remain calm in the meantime until symptoms subside. I am away how stress can affect the body in numerous ways. Thank you for all your help and answering my questions. 

You’re welcome.  EWH ---