[Question #10502] Terrified
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22 months ago
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I am in a “monogamous” relationship… I may also have a touch of anxiety. I realize that people make mistakes and I am trrrified of getting chlamydia or gonorrhea from my partner. I am female and have tested via urine once a month for 5 months always negative. I even tried to put cervical discharge in the urine. Can I assume he does not have one of these infections? Or is there a chance that he hasn’t passed on an infection yet? We have sex once a week or every other week.
* I have no real reason to think he is creating on me, but an affair at work between coworkers has riddled me with anxiety.
* I also don’t want to accuse my partner of cheating, because he already thinks I’m nuts for the anxiety of the affair at work.
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
22 months ago
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Welcome to our Forum. Thanks for your implied confidence in our service. I'll be glad to comment. My sense is that your fear of acquiring gonorrhea, chlamydia or another STI is far out of proportion to your risk. STIs are simply not as common as you may think-most people, even persons with multiple partners do not have STIs; you state that you are not concerned that your partner has other partners; and you have five negative tests for STIs. These tests are very sensitive and there is no realistic chance that you have genital chlamydial infection after five negative tests.
It seems that you have more than "a touch" of anxiety" and I wonder why. Have you had other partners? have you had STIs in the past, has your partner? The fact that co-workers are having an affair does not mean that you are at risk. EWH
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22 months ago
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Dr. Hook, thank you for your reply.
I have never had an std before, and I do not think my partner has either. I was not concerned about the cheating until this affair at work was exposed … I have since realized that people make mistakes. While I don’t think my partner has been unfaithful, I can not be certain. I would really like to stop entertaining my anxiety, in the 5 months that I have tested negative is there any real chance that he has an infection that has yet to be passed on? And is urine acceptable for females?
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
22 months ago
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Urine is a good but not perfect test for women HOWEVER, the cumulative effect of five separate tests provide unequivocal proof that you do not have gonorrhea or chlamydia. There is no meaningful chance that you are infected with gonorrhea or chlamydia.
With all due respect, I would gently suggest that you seek the advice of a trained, professional counselor to address your fears. There is no reason for concern and I worry that your unfounded anxiety may have a negative impact on your relationship. EWH
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22 months ago
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Thank you again, I agree that I need professional help and I am trying to find a good fit for me. Since this is my last question- is there any chance that my partner might have an infection that he has yet to pass on, if the answer is no, then I know that I can stop testing and fueling my anxiety.
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
22 months ago
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No, there is no chance that your partner is infected but has not yet passed the infection on to you. Unless something changes, there is no need for further testing.
As you note, this will complete this thread. Take care. I wish you the best. EWH
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