Hello, I'm going to ask a question thats been kicked around a while. I was stupid and went to an asian massage place a handful of times. I received a handjob without a condom twice... and a few other times I had a massage and had hot stone massage and she rubbed my shaft while I was face down and then cleaned me with a hot wet rag. I laid a "clean" towel on the massage table just incase it was dirty. My question is out of this... should I be worried about STD's or HIV and should I be tested?

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Good Moring Dr. Handsfield, Thank you for replying to me question in regards to STD's and HIV. This all started a 2 years ago and I'd go every month of 2 and not all the places were the same. I think I've gone to get a massage like 20 times. I'd lay a "clean" towel over the area that I'd lay down in hopes that it would make it a bit cleaner. Out of all those times that I went I got one table shower and she washed me from my neck down, even my shaft. I'm not sure what the condition of the water was or if I had chance of catching something from that either. I have only had 2 full on hand jobs and 2 other times where I was laying down and there was some contact with my penis with hot rocks and I ending up cuming. like 8 months ago I had sex with my wife and pulled out I didn't clean up and I had some white/clean stuff on my shaft and a few days later It was pealing and had this white area on my shaft and and it was itchy and my pubic hair area had some relish spots like I was about to break out.  This lasted about 8-10 days and then it went away. My wife was trying a new health eating thing and she thinks she had a yeast infection. Plus sense then I've had a swollen lymph node behind my right ear and one on my lower left hand side of my head. I'm assuming they were lymph nodes... they seamed hard and slight sore to touch. They only lasted a few days. and then like 3-4 weeks ago I got this rash on my soft again that lasted a week and then was gone. I don't think there was any blisters. I had used some organic hemp, herbal/coconut oil the night before and I've noticed before that oil was a bit harsh on the shin. Am I just stressing out over guilt of what I've done.. Do you still feel that I'm in the clear? and that these symptoms are from something else... I try to stay very active and eat healthy too.. your thoughts?

None of these additional details change my opinions or advice. As noted above, nobody gets STDs from events like this, no matter how often:  They call them sexually transmitted for good reason, and no intercourse means no risk! As for your symptoms and your wife's, yeast infection are not an STD. I can't say what caused the past skin flaking of the penis, but I agree that the oils you used might be too harsh for delicate genital tissues.---

Dr. Handsfield, I do thank you for your priceless advice and ease of mind. I know that I've probably ran my questions beyond that I'm given.  but I don't to put this to rest... Does this also include STI's? or are STD's and STI's the same thing? So from the action that I took and my stupidity... I shouldn't worry? I've read in other websites that you can get STI's/STD's by  skin to skin contact... Does that mean that if she had something on her hand and then touched my penis to give a hand job would I get what ever that she might have had on her hand? Do you know where I'm going with this? My pee hole while having a hand job what if something got in? am I being paranoid or is that something to worry about? Also one of those times I had just shaved hours before and might have had a small razor cut? would that pose a problem also? Again I am very grateful for your handwork and time that you have given me in this matter. 

STD and STI mean exactly the same thing. Some experts prefer one or the other term, that's all.---