[Question #11009] Nude Lap Dance

17 months ago

2 days back, I had a private nude lap dance where for whole incident, my thick sweatpants were ON (no underwear) and a stripper/she was NUDE all the time. For whole dance, my pen*s was hard, I was lying on back, she was on top of me, held my pen*s (held from outside with sweatpants) in an upright position and was grinding on my pen*s. As the room was dark, not sure 1 if there was a penetration (I was clothed) 2 if her vaginal fluid passed via my pants and slipped into my Penis? I ejaculated inside my pants in the end.
Question: am I at risk for any STD/STI if one or both things above happend? Can you share your thought?

Same morning, I bit my inner lip eating, it bled a bit and stopped. Same day night at strip club, sucked on stripper’s nipples / breasts less than a minute at this time my lip was not bleeding but scar / redness was still there in inner lip. Any STI risk it may pose?

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

17 months ago

Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your confidence in our services.

Sometimes there's almost enough information in the title of a question to answer it; this comes close. A lap dance is exceedingly un pples, even in the presence of an oral sore of some kind. No STIs are carried on nipples or skin, or are transmitted by breast fluid. It's also impossible to believe there was penile penetration through your sweatpants or that you didn't know about.

So for sure these both were no risk events. You do not need testing and if you have a regular sex partner you can safely continue your usual relationship with no chance of passing any infection.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

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17 months ago

Thank You Sir for the reply, a few things for more clarity.

1 In your reply I don't understand the exact word " exceedingly un pples ", can you clarify?

2 A wild imagination (speaking from anxiety) that " penile penetration" occurred where " penis inside sweatpants on a bare vagina ", does it pause STD risk?

3 You're right that I would know if there was a penetration. But I felt pressure or squeezing on Penis, may be from grinding.

3 since incident is under 3 days mark for PReP meds., do I need to start on it?

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

17 months ago

1. Sorry: apparently an entire section was mistakenly deleted before I entered my reply. The full statement was supposed to read "A lap dance is exceedingly safe unlikely to transmit any infection, and and the same is true for oral contact with breasts or nipples." I apologize for the confusion!

2,3. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to speculate on an impossibility. Clearly vaginal penetration cannot occur with sweatpants in place; and you would know if you had dropped your pants or there was otherwise a possibility of your unprotected penis entering her vagina.

4. Of course you should not consider PrEP. I doubt you could find a provider willing to prescribe it anyway, assuming you were truthful about the event. (Even with unprotected penile penetration, the risk of HIV from such a partner is too low for PrEP.)

Don't overthink these events. There was no risk at all. Believe it, and let's not speculate about other outlandish "what if" scenarios.

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17 months ago

Many thanks for your assurance and THE LAST question. To ensure and respectfully asking as you analyzed my incident not only for “ lap dance “ perspective as she was not on my lap all the time but at a point I was lying back and she was on top of me grinding her private against mine. Correct?

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

17 months ago

I understood all that. How could body position make a difference? Still no risk.

Each question includes two follow-up comments and replies, so that ends this thread. I hope the discussion has been helpful.

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