Hello 

While it is possible to acquire HSV genitally be receiving oral sex (then it is almost always HSV 1 genital infection), the kind of contact that you describe seem extremely unlikely to transmit virus to the penis.  I just don't feel like this is present any real risk of HSV---

Thanks for replying. When I asked this question to Dr Hook he said that there is no risk of anything and no need to test. 

I agree totally with Dr. Hook.  So many things are theoretically possible but would never happen. This is one of those times, in my opinion---

On day 7 after the contact I had as mentioned above I was still in a lot of pain and was red inside the urethra so I went to the doctors and he swabbed me for chlamydia, gonorrhoea and herpes all came back negative. Doctor said it won’t pick up herpes if there is no lesion. Which there wasn’t but only redness. I’m still worried that it’s herpes, am I just manifesting this. It’s been really painful. Are herpes obvious when you look in the urethra as doctor barely looked and said it’s not.  I’m scared to be intimate with my wife. 

That's actually not correct.  We can pick up herpes virus in completely asymptomatic people.  Apparently, your physician is unaware of the concept of asymptomatic viral shedding.   Swabbing the urethra and getting a negative result would have been useful to reassure you that this is not herpes.  You just didn't have the right kind of experience to have acquired herpes, as both Dr. Hook and I have said---