[Question #11337] Protected sex
15 months ago
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Hi Doctor. Im sorry that i had to come back. It just that i can trust any information online but only this website and Medhelp. Medhelp does not provide much explanation but only says ‘No risk’. As well as poz.com.
- about the protected sex, the condom didn’t break as when it break it will catastrophic that you won’t miss but how come some people didn’t notice condom breakage until they finished.
- condom used correctly and consistently, this is the first time i use a condom so i have no idea if i did it right or not.
- how come people get infected with protected sex, what have they done wrong?
It was reaally short sex i had. The girl supplied the condom so i have to assume she practices safe sex.
- im afraid my penis went in during frottage when she was on top of me. At first i was wearing a condom then she starting grinding hard. I couldn’t feel anything to be honest but then the condom was out of my penis probably from grinding. As i said this is the first time having sex and i dont know if it went in or not. I dont know the sensation i dont know anything. She claims that she rubbed her clit with my penis but i have a hard time believing her and it was just for 1 minute.
- many sites says fingering is a risk with a cut or damaged of any kind in the skin of the finger. As i said my fingers has alot of white scrapes under and sides of nails and poorly maintained condition. Everytime i finger a women my finger becomes sore like stinging pain and it lasts and dont go. If it is not a risk, they should have said fingering no matter what is a safe sex. If it was only once i wouldnt worry but i did it way too much and not fingering her back and forth but insert my finger and massage or rub the cervix.
15 months ago
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- i know you and all the websites says symptoms are not useful in knowing hiv.
With your expertise of 30 years of std and hiv i want to know in untreated and unknowingly when someone has untreated HIV for awhile.:
- the lymph node swell when hiv, will the lymph node goes back to normal after acute phase or it remains enlarge until you take antiviral.
- there is some people said they had skin issue when they went to a doctor and after doing more and more investigations they found it is hiv. I have a skin issue like really tiny small pimples with fluid inside when you scratch them, it happens when i walking under the sun.
- plus some said they had digestive issues, like bloating, excessive gases, really slow digestion and Acid reflex.
Again im sorry, i know symptoms are worthless
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
15 months ago
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This is a repetitive question. Please review our earlier exchange. Repeatyoun your questions will not change the answers and is a waste of your time and mine. Further, a number of your follow-ups are "what if" questions which serve no purpose. In reply
I don't know why some people notice when condoms break while others do not know until sex is completed. Nor does it matter- when condoms fail it is obvious that they did
If your penis had entered your partner during frottage, you would know it. You are worrying needlessly.
Do not believe the internet. Fingering and other forms or masturbation including frottage are no risk activities. The presence of cuts or scrapes on your fingers makes no difference
If lymph node swelling were due to HIV, the swelling would persist for months
The skin problems you describe sound nothing like HIV
You are spending too much time on the internet. Please stay off the internet- it will mislead you. EWH
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15 months ago
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Thanks!
1. about the lymph node- will it go back to normal size and you wont feel them even if you dont start medication or grow. Does the lymph node persist to stay enlarge until you start treatment?
- so i should rest assured that the condom worked and didn’t break as its 100% you will know about it? Probably the people that didn’t notice the breakage because they want to resume sex until they finish. You said correctly and consistently! Is there a way that people wear a condom correctly. What are human error or unrecognizable lapses use that people make.
2- can i still do fingering deep inside without worrying about potential infection even with poorly condition fingers and cuts?
3- what kind of skin issues and GI issues can be caused by untreated hiv for awhile?
4- the symptoms that i had from protected sex, should i ignore it and its all anxiety symptoms? What std known to be caused prostatitis?
5- Do i need to test for hiv and STD from short brief sex with condom, grinding frottage ( im not worried now about possibly penetration because im worrying needlessly and i would know if it went in and multiple countless fingering deep inside rubbing for awhile with cuts and not good care of fingers?
6- Can i have unprotected sex with my partner and enjoy sex with her without worrying?
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
15 months ago
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1. If the condom appeared intact it was. Worrying about lymph nodes is a waste of time and energy. There are many, many causes of swollen lymph nodes. In persons with lymph node swelling due to HIV, sometimes they change and sometimes they don't.
2. Yes
3. The list is too long to say. If you have GI problems or dermatological problems see a doctor and ask them.
4. Yes, ignore your symptoms. STIs virtually never cause prostatitis
5. From a scientific perspective you do not need to test however my sense is that your level of anxiety is high. If you had symptoms due to HIV, a test would be positive. I suggest you test so you can stop worrying.
6. Yes
You have one follow-up remaining, then the thread will be closed. EWH
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15 months ago
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- i have 3 lymph nodes, one on the side of the neck and in front and at the back. They never change in size. No in the armpit or the groin. I had it for awhile. Painless.
- you said list is too long to say about GI and Skin. Just one question. Does bloating and gases for more than 6 months and Gerd: reflux is one of the list that hiv does?
- my anxiety is settled. I trust your expertise and i will move on. I dont need to test.
- I dont even need to test for std and skin to skin infections?
- if i have a symptoms of hiv a test would be positive. I have some of the symptoms but you reassured me its not related to hiv.
- Thank you very much doctor for settling my anxiety. I trust your expertise.
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Edward W. Hook M.D.
15 months ago
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Final Responses:
- i have 3 lymph nodes, one on the side of the neck and in front and at the back. They never change in size. No in the armpit or the groin. I had it for awhile. Painless.
These do not suggest HIV. As I said, these are nonspecific findings. They could be from a dental cavity or gum disease
- you said list is too long to say about GI and Skin. Just one question. Does bloating and gases for more than 6 months and Gerd: reflux is one of the list that hiv does?
Bloating, increased gas, and GERD are not signs of HIV. GERD may be worsened by anxiety.
- my anxiety is settled. I trust your expertise and i will move on. I dont need to test.
Correct. Certainly no scientific reason for testing
- I dont even need to test for std and skin to skin infections?
Correct
- if i have a symptoms of hiv a test would be positive. I have some of the symptoms but you reassured me its not related to hiv.
Correct as well
This completes this thread which will now be closed. Please don't worry. EWH
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