1. Are there any stds I can get from deep kissing and having these guys lick on my body (nipples and stomach)? I am particularly concerned about syphilis and herpes 

2. Are there any stds I can get from jerking these guys and having them jerk me? What if they had semen on their hands on vice versa.

I went out to get a tested. I am still waiting for the RPR Syphilis test and my mind is racing. Usually it does not take this long to get results back. Should I be concerned.

While waiting I got a rapid syphilis antibody test. Should this give me reassurance or should I wait for the RPR test? I’m not sure what’s taking so long.

I am only 21 so I’m so scared and don’t want to tell my parents 

You're not (yet) at risk for any STD. Without penile-oral or -anal (or -vaginal) penetration, there typically is little if any risk. You'll find online resources -- largely run by anxious or otherwise biased posters, e.g. places like Reddit -- that will advise differently, saying that some STDs are transmitted by skin-to-skin contact, that saliva is a risk, or that (they swear) they were infected by hand-genital contact, fingering, kissing, and so on. And indeed there is some controversy about gonorrhea risk from kissing among men having sex with other men (MSM). But all these are nonexistent, or so rare the risk should be ignored. The business about skin-skin transmission doesn't mean ANY skin contact; it only refers to the skin-skin component of penetrating sex. Syphilis, HPV and HSV are transmitted primarily by contact between infected and susceptible surface during sex, but only then. By contrast, gonorrhea, chlamydia and HIV are transmitted in genital fluids.

Those comments pretty well cover your specific questions, but explicitly:  kissing conceivably small risk of gonorrhea, and syphilis is rarely so transmitted; and you could acquire herpes due to HSV1 (but oral herpes isn't generally considered an STD). Oral contact with breasts and nipples is risk free. Nobody has ever been known to acquire any STD by hand-genital contact, even when genital fluids are used for lubrication. One can imagine a potential risk for herpes, but in 50 years in the STD business, I've never seen or heard of it happening.

So I would not have recommended any testing you describe. Time to receiving a result almost always is simply related to when the lab does the test once a specimen arrives (which can take time), and time to convey the result after doing the test. Increased time does not imply a positive result. Your RPR will be negative. (What other tests did you have?)

If and when you begin having real sex with other guys, please take proper precautions:  Never without first discussion STD/HIV status; ideally condoms for anal sex, either insertive (top) or receptive (bottom). Or if not condoms, consider pre- or post-exposure prophylaxis with anti-HIV to prevent HIV (PrEP, PEP); and if especially high risk (multiple non-monogamous partners), doxycycline after exposure to prevent chlamydia and syphilis (doxy-PEP). A knowledgeable sexual health clinic or HIV/AIDS provider will be familiar with these details.

I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

1. Is it possible that I could have transmitted HIV to her while I was on PEP even though i am now negative? Could the PEP have cleared the HIV out of my system, but still transmitted to her? (I would like to add that through out my PEP treatment and beyond I have tested neg on various tests).

2. I only find info saying that oral thrush is a result of HIV. I know she hasn’t been with other people, and she also has iron deficiency anemia. Could the anemia be causing her thrush?

This whole situation is driving me with anxiety. 

1. No, impossible.

2. Anemia is not a likely cause of yeast infections, but that doesn't mean HIV is the explanation. It is not.

PEP was not warranted in this situaiton. Its main effect now means a long delay when you can have conclusive HIV testing.Too bad.

1. Does this final test result mean that it is no way possible that I could have given my female partner HIV when we had sex while I was taking PEP? 

2. She told me that her doctor told her she had oral thrush on her toungue via virtual consultation. However she said that her toungue does not hurt or doesn’t feel weird at all. Is oral thrush usually painful? Everything I read associates oral thrush with HIV. 

2. Visual diagnosis of oral thrush is inherently unreliable; and many doctors use the term "thrush" even when yeast infection isn't known to be involved. Your "everything I read" statement reflects your non-objective searching. Re-read my comments above and limit your online searching to reputable professional or professionally moderated sites. I've personally cared for innumerable patients with oral yeast infections who did not have HIV -- in far greater numbers than those who did have the virus.

That concludes this thread. Do your best to accept, believe and understand the reasoned, science based advice you have had. Best wishes and stay safe.