[Question #11388] Opinion
14 months ago
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1. had condomless sex with my First gf about 4 years back. We were both virgins as in we never had any kind of sexual intercourse or any sexual activity in our lives. She also used to donate blood. This was my only sexual encounter. I dont take drugs or had any blood transfusion. Second encounter: I went to meet a trans women recently she said she was a women but later when I kissed her I relized she was a trans. I had just kissed her.. and just like wanked me off I was really turned off and after I cummed I put my clothes on and went off she licked like my ass for 10 sec. I did not touch her anywhere no sexual contact was made. all we did was Kissing/handjob/ she rimmed me like 5-8sec max and blowjob for like 2sec. I did not touch her anywhere no body fluids were exchanged.nd after that encounter I came out and nearly emptied Half a bottle of mouth wash trying to get rid of germs in my mouth. Third& Fourth Encounter: Was just like a handjobs at massage parlours. nothing else.This is my only sexual history. The trans women incident happened on 31th Dec,23. and the last massage was 12th Feb,2024. I never had any symptoms just after the encounter with the Trans women I had a fever like after a week. but not only me the entire house of 3 people including me got that fever. I got from my friend and he passed on to me. do u think it could be any risk?. After asking 30+ doctors they said you dont need any testing I tested myself at following days from the trans women encounter: 101 days (10th April,24) and 125(5th May,24) days using OraQuick came back Negative. At 138 (18th May) days with Chembio Finger Prick Blood Test came back Negative. No other sexual encounters in these 139 days. Is testing conclusive and am I safe? 2. Do I need any more testing?
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
14 months ago
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Welcome to the forum. I'm glad to answer these questions.
I am happy to join the "30+ doctors" who already have reassured you. Clearly you are overreacting emotionally to the unexpected and stressful reveal of your trans partner's sexual status. But that's the only problem here! Even if she had HIV, you could not have caught it from the events you have described. The mouth wash made no difference. And of course handjobs at massage parlors cannot transmit HIV. Finally, your negative test results are 100% proof you do not have HIV. You do not need any more HIV testing.
Do your best to let it go. If you cannot, it indicates a need for professional counseling. It is simply not normal thinking to remain as fearful as you seem to be after the repeated, reasoned, science-based reassurance you have had.
I hope these comments are helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.
HHH, MD
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14 months ago
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Hi HHH, Thanks for for your elaborate answer. Just wanting to make sure as I know after testing negative means you do not have HIV. But, whenever I even feel slight's of ailment in my body I feel its cause of HIV.. that anxiety shoots up. Also, as you said I 100% do not have hIV will the test results change if I take another test? I am not taking just asking for myself. And Its my anxiety that causes me to think I am not safe and need re assurances, so is testing done at right time? and can I for sure believe my Results? And it's very stupid but my my anxiety believes how can I get away with it so easily I have suffered for months thinking I have got HIV. So, it tricks me into believing something else also happened with trans women. Which I know for sure didn't happen. So, does it make any difference whatever happened with her ? after the Negative Test results?
14 months ago
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Regardless of the encounters, can I trust my results 100% and move one?
14 months ago
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and sorry one last thing, whenever I feel like letting go, my anxious voice yells and says that you cannot let go of the Virus? Even me knowing I did not have it in the first place.
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
14 months ago
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You're asking the same questions using different words. It is 100% certain you do not have HIV. Therefore, your negative test results cannot change if you do not have a new exposure that infects you. I agree exactly with your own statement: "Its my anxiety that causes me to think I am not safe and need re assurances."
I don't care that your "anxious voice yells and says that you cannot let go of the Virus". The answer to that lies in mental health care, not more testing. You need professional help. I suggest it from compassion, not criticism.
I will not respond to any further comments or questions that ask the same things in different words.
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14 months ago
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Just last Questions sir, Regardless of the encounters and what I did or not do, can I trust my results 100% and move one specially the Chembio one? Because as you said I want to forget and move forward.
14 months ago
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That would be my final question. Thanks again for taking the time to answer my questions Doctor. You are amazing. Cheers I will ignore my anxiety and move forward in my life. Thanks to you
14 months ago
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The only reason I am asking this last Questions is that my inner dialogue/ anxiety believes it had anal sex. Which I never ever did I didn't even see her ass or anything down. I also asked her she said she gets tested and wont have sex without a condom. But my anxiety is just taking the better off me.
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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
14 months ago
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More of the same question in different words. I see no need to repeat the answer. I have no comment about your anxieties making you worry you also had anal sex. And you re-describe the evidence your partner doesn't have HIV anyway.
That concludes this thread. Thanks for the thanks.
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