Good Afternoon,

I'm sorry you are having so much trouble moving forward despite the reassurances provided by Dr. Handsfield a month ago and my prior reassurances as well.  Your wife's changes do not change our prior assessments.  You are not at risk for STIs.  Your past behavior has not put your wife at risk.  At this time the best thing I can suggest for you is to seek a counselor to help you address your guilt and it's contribution to your unwarranted anxiety.  EWH---

Thank you so much for your candor and quick reply I do see a therapist to discuss these matters she too agrees that my guilt is driving my anxiety.

My take aways from this are that my anxiety is not based on any sound science, that whatever is happening with my wife (you are obviously not her OBGYN who she is seeing on Wednesday) has little or nothing to do with my past actions, and that there are plausable and realistic scientific and medical reasons for her current problem than me giving her an sti from past mutual masturbation incidents. Does that about sum it up?

I should instead focus my efforts on supporting her and making sure she gets the care she needs for this current problem rather than writing to you in a panic. 

Your summary is right on target.  AS you suggest, I urge you to focus on supporting your wife and moving forward, not focusing on the possibility of STIs which you do not have.  EWH---

I just want to start by saying thank you and that I am using my last response to inform you of what the doctor told my wife. She said that it looked like she had a budding yeast infection (as I said my wife was very prone to them during her first pregnancy). She said she should go on Monistat for 7 days to treat it. As for anything else, the OBGYN said it could be BV but that she really didn't think it was. To be safe, she has to provide a urine sample to rule anything else out like BV or UTI. 

All in all, it seemed to be exactly what logic should have led me to beleive. I shouldn't be worried about a surprise result from the urine sample because things like chlamydia and gonorrhea unequivocally are not transferred by mutual masturbation.  P

My only question on BV, which the doctor is skeptical of,  is that something I could have given her or is that again, more tied to hormonal and PH variances tied to pregnancy?

Thanks for the additional information.  I would not worry in the least about a "surprise" result on your wife's urine test.  Testing for chlamydia and gonorrhea must be specifically ordered and as already said, there is NO risk for these infections from participation in mutual masturbation.---