Welcome to our Forum. I'll try to help. My sense is that your symptoms are related to your anxiety over this exposure and are not due to STI. You have already told me that your partner was not highly sexually active, had been checked for STI and would have told you if she were found to have infection. In addition, I can tell you that STI rates are very low in 40 year old women , that most unprotected exposures to infected partners do not lead to infection, and that STI symptoms virtually never come and go, nor do they include urinary frequency or testicular ache. On the other hand, anxiety and searching for symptoms regularly leads to increased awareness of otherwise normal symptoms. I am confident you did not get and STI from the event you describe and that you do not need more testing or treatment. As for your specific questions:
1. Could my symptoms of the tingling rise for 2-3 days then go away for over a month?
no, this is in no way typical of an STI
2. I know I have STD anxiety I don't debate that, and I trust Terris expert opinion on not having herpes, because I have not had a single outbreak or sores, bumps, painful urination or ejaculation. And my fever went away with antibiotic treatment.
And I am in agreement with Terri, there is nothing here to suggest you have herpes and no need for testing
3. Does any of these symptoms relate to anything besides anxiety?
I am not a urologist and so I cannot tell you if some of your symptoms might be due to your varicocoele (which is typically a benign problem that needs no treatment). they are not suggestive of an STI as I said above
4. Could anxiety be the cause for frequent urination and the feeling in the tip of my penis because for some reason internet forums and worry seem to go hand in hand.
Absolutely, anxiety could certainly be doing this
5. My GP is very well respected in my town with board certifications, do you think it is possible he could have misdiagnosed me after 4 visits. Also my mother is a health care professional in another state. I contacted her and other respected doctors. All of them said Im a hypochondriac. Would i notice any other symptoms if I had Hep A,B, or C, syphillis, or HIV or Trich?
I'm not going to call you a hypochondriac but I DO agree with those who have told you that you do not have an STI. You need to put these concerns behind you and move forward without concern. You certainly have no indication for testing or for treatment. EWH