Hello, i was feeling very lonely, made a terrible decision and went to an asian massage parlor for affection. I engaged in oral sex with a woman at an asian massage parlor. I was under the impression we would use a condom for everything, but it escalated quickly and we did not use any protection. She began to give me oral sex, i am a man. I then gave her oral sex as well, but only for about 3-4 minutes. She gave me oral sex for approximately 10 minutes. We stopped, i never had any PIV sex, no other forms of sex at all. My question is what risk am i for STDs and what types? Also, am i high at risk for mono/ebv or other illnesses? I asked her if she is clean and she said she is clean and tested but i don’t trust that completely. Her area appeared to be clean. Its been 5 days since and i have no symptoms except now, when i orgasm i get a thunderclap headache that may be totally unrelated (i am very overweight and do not take care of my health, extremely stressful occupation, i am trying to manage these things as best i can).

Welcome to our Forum. Thanks for your questions and implied confidence in our service.  I'll be glad to comment.  The exposure you describe was low, but not no risk.  Oral sex, giving and receiving, is the lowest variation of penetrative sex and few STIs are transmitted in this way.  The major STI acquired from oral sex is gonorrhea. If you acquired gonorrhea from orals sex there is a more than 90% chance that your would have developed symptoms (penile discharge) by now.  Oral gonorrhea however is typically asymptomatic and is only detected by testing with a throat swab.  Other STIs are very, very rare from the sorts of exposures you describe.  ---

Doctor, i really appreciate you even answering me. Ive been stressed and scheduled an appointment for the thunderclap headache because i think its totally unrelated to this, but whenever i ejaculate upon orgasm i get this extreme sharp headache that takes hours to go away. I thought the two were related but it makes me more comfortable that you said its not.

Your brother’s child is certainly at no risk even in the unlikely circumstance that you acquired an STI from the virtually no risk encounter that you have described.  ---

I think this is a bit of a stretch, but it applies to the thunderclap headache. Developing meningitis as a result of this is a stretch? I thought of it because the two are related. Im also paranoid because i dont usually do this stuff.

You’re right. It is more than a bit of a stretch. It is a major stretch.  Your headaches are unrelated to the sexual encounter that you describe. Meningitis is not consistent in anyway with the symptoms you described.---