About a week ago I saw a very tiny red dot on my foreskin when I folded it back. It wasn't raised or indented it was incredibly small just red. I thought it might be from masterbation as I've had a small tear here or there. I put some lotion on it and over the next two days it got smaller and smaller till I couldn't even find it. Never ulcerated to my knowledge, however after that I lost almost all appetite which is very odd for me that never happens. Lasted about 3 days then went back to nornal. Started having dull testicle aches that came and went and also dull headaches that came and went. I came up with reasonable answers to all of these being hard sex with my partner or loud music but it feels like denying reality. Then finally I noticed a rash a little behind my armpit both sides but more on one and also the same around my waistline. They don't look like syphilis rash from Google or bumps. Nothing on my hands or feet so far and they don't itch. It looks like very tiny red dots lightly spaced out. 

I've read a lot of these questions and I keep telling myself the chances of this are very minimal but I'm afraid I've infected my partner and my anxiety is beyond what I can describe. Your thoughts and how likely this is something to worry about please 

We find that when client are worried about an encounter they tend to become hypervigilant and start noticing normal things that they would otherwise overlook or to wonder if minor abrasions and rashes are an STI when they are not.  Further, the symptoms you describe sound as they have all occurred more than 30 days after your exposures which is also inconsistent with an STI.

I am confident that nothing you describe suggests an STI and feel that there is no medical need for testing.  I do note however that you describe yourself as quite anxious and in such cases, testing may provide a negative result which helps reduce anxiety.  If you choose to test at this time, results will be virtually conclusive and will prove that you do not have an STI.  If you choose to test, the tests I would suggest are a urine test for gonorrhea, chlamydia and trichomonas and blood test for syphilis and HIV (blood tests are conclusive at 6 weeks, close to that after 30 days)

I hope this helps.  Please don't worry.  EWH

I’m pleased you feel comfortable not testing.  I agree with your decision.  EWH 

Headache and testicular discomfort of the sort you describe in the absence of other signs of infection are certainly not due to STI.  Headaches are tough- do they interfere with your normal activities, are they getting worse?  are there other associated symptoms.  I continue to suspect that the headaches are a manifestation of anxiety but if they persist it is certainly worth discussing with your doctor.  OTOH, if they go away when distracted or come and go, they may still be lingering effects of anxiety.  

As for the testicular aches that come and go, they are almost certainly an effect of focused attentiveness looking for signs of an STI.  I would not worry about them and suspect they will resolve

Take care.  This completes this thread.  EWH.  

No pain when peeing but after work and seeing my partner before going in shower I noticed clear discharge, not a lot but enough to slightly overflow. Looked clear maybe a white spot I can't remember. This is around 40 days after and I was aroused 30 minutes earlier from neck kissing but I didn't get an erection.

In the morning I immediately checked to see if there was any discharge I didn't see any. Some liquid when I opened my urethra but I didn't squeeze it and nothing came out. I already went to get tested but have to wait and just wanted your updated thoughts. Do you still think the protected sex is enough to make it like very unlikely or is it just 50/50.