No sense hashing the why and why not. I thought I was over this. Older guy hooking up with other mostly married  older guys for oral sex NO penetration sex. 3 weeks ago Gave a guy a BJ asked his status got a confused  look and asked if he was safe answer was yes. He came in my mouth which I did.t want. I went to the rest room and rinsed my mouth 

Welcome back to the Forum.  As you have heard on prior posts, this sort of exposure is quite low risk.  Five months ago Dr. Handsfield replied " Oral sex is inherently low risk for all STDs and zero risk for some -- which I'm pretty sure has been discussed in at least one of your many previous threads. The main risks are for gonorrhea, nongonococcal urethritis due to normal oral bacteria, herpes due to HSV1 (but at your age you likely have had HSV1 and are immune), and syphilis if your partners remain mostly males. If you'd like to lower your risk still further.... But either way, I would also advise you to stop obsessing over trivial symptoms. And rather than seeking STI/HIV testing after every event, just plan on a routine tests (urine for gonorrhea/chlamydia, and blood tests for syphilis and HIV -- AND NOTHING ELSE) after every several exposures."  That recommendation still holds.  The symptoms you describe do not suggest any particular STI.  Certainly illnesses like influenza and COVID might cause such symptoms but so could numerous other common , community acquired viruses.  ---

Thanks for the reply. Just thought these symptoms were strange I forgot to mention I also have a sore throat Mild

 One last post: I thought the oral gonorrhea was a blood test.  Also I can't understand why testing isn't totally anonymous

Most oral STIs are symptomatic.  A productive cough is not a sign of recently acquired HIV. ---

Temp gone must have been a three day virus. Thanks for all you do I think I have finally had enough of this stuff!

Thanks for the follow up information.   Take care.---