[Question #12519] Ongoing fear of hiv

7 months ago

Hello this is Marcos

A few months ago you reassured me about my frottage, oral sex and fingering events, I even had an antigen test and it was negative

Now Im trying to have a child with my wife but I have continued going to some erotic massage

I always avoid vaginal sex, it’s not what Im looking for, but my worries are:

1 - Three times the girl was nuded and Im afraid her vagina came in contact with my penis (although I always try to be aware of it and avoid it) even my mind makes me think if I can even penetrate for a few seconds, what would be the risk if this had happened?

7 months ago

2- Also try to avoid unprotected oral sex but two times happeded but were very brief, one today maybe were in total 30 seconds, which is the risk of the others sti?

3- what about fingering a girl with a small cut in my finger or sucking nipples?

Im worried because I have natural sex with my wife.. but I know how penetatrion is and only remember this feeling with my wife but I have a lot of anxiety

Gracias

Edward W. Hook M.D.

7 months ago

Welcome to our Forum. Thanks for your question. I looked for your prior questions and cannot find them. Perhaps you are using a different user name or had it deleted. Either way it is unfortunate as I now have to start again without knowing the content of our prior interactions. In general, erotic massage without penetration is a no risk event even in the unlikely circumstance that your masseuse had HIV or another STI. In reply to your specific questions:

Contact of her vagina with your penis without penetration is still a no risk event. This is the case even if her genital secretions got on your penis.

2- Also try to avoid unprotected oral sex but two times happeded but were very brief, one today maybe were in total 30 seconds, which is the risk of the others sti?

Receipt of oral sex is low risk. There is no risk for HIV and the most common STI acquired in this way is gonorrhea which typically becomes symptomatic within 3-5 days of exposure. This is very low risk.

3- what about fingering a girl with a small cut in my finger or sucking nipples?

No risk

I hope this information is helpful. I would not be worried at all and do not feel strongly that testing of any sort is necessary unless you develop symptoms such as a penile discharge or burning on urination. EWH

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7 months ago

Question #11662] Always worried about HIV, then I’ven submited a follow up question with also another account (which cant find) where I informed about a negative antigen/antibody test even though I was adviced about my no risk

Now my fears are similar, I always try to avoid body to body contact with the masseuse but sometimes they have been naked next to me and have rubbed me with their breasts and stomach my penis and I wonder if there was contact with ther genitalia to mine, and even if there were brief penetration that the maniac that I am I guess I would have noticed or avoided.

7 months ago

Also.I would like to mention that my wife passed a cold with mucus, sore throat, headache (not fever) and now she has a cough from the chest that wont go away (she is not treating it) she is a pediatrician and sees many children with viruses

I had twos days with headache, a bit shore throat but was pretty mild not fever

All of this worries me a lot cause we have regular natural sex to become parents, I know I have to quit going to these places even though I dont look for sex

Best regards

Edward W. Hook M.D.

7 months ago

Thanks for the follow-up information. None of this changes my assessment. It does suggest however that you should seek formal confidential counseling to help you move past your irrational concerns. This site is not for that purpose. EWH---

7 months ago

Thanks again for your reply, just to conclude which will be the risk if accidentally lets say that my pennis penetrated 10 seconds a vagina, and what about the cough that doesnt go away of my wife, thats a sympthon?

Thanks

Edward W. Hook M.D.

7 months ago

Cough is not a sign of recently acquired HIV or any other STI.

If you had penetrated your masseuse, you would know it. I would not w.

This completes this thread. Please don’t worry. There should be no need to return. EWH

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