I'm very worried I may have gotten herpes from a one time exposure with a gay male.   I've been in a monogamous relationship for 7 years.   But one night I met up with a random gay guy in a park and we masterbated together for maybe ten minutes.   It was very dark and I couldn't see his penis at all and I was very drunk.  He said he's never had herpes symptoms.  There's was lots of back and forth.   No fluids were exchanged though.   The next couple days after, I got very anxious worried I could've caught something.   When I was showing Saturday morning around noon,  the incident was Thursday 1130pm, I noticed a very small patched of skin just outside of my foreskin.   The more I think about it the more it was like a blister.  I rubbed it and it kinda flaked off and turned red.  It was painful.   Then it looked kinda irritated wit very small red dots very small.   Kinda looked like fordyce spots but red.   Throughout the next 2 weeks it was kinda itchy sometimes more irritating depending on time of day.   I never went to doctor for swab now I'm kicking myself.   It went away after about 2 weeks.   I know everyone says mutual masterbation is low low risk.   But maybe he had open sores.   I dunno.   I remember my penis feeling kinda wet at the tip and having to pee a lot when it was there.  I've been for a full std screen now a 3 weeks.   Everything was negative including non specific herpes test.  Terri has said this test could miss hsv 1 though.    Now it's 7 weeks later  and ive had this strange pain in my lower back.   My calfs are very sore in the morning.  The pain in my back moves all around my lower back sometimes right someone's left sometimes more in buttocks.  Could this be nerve pain from a hsv2 primary infection?  I've started reading about PHN and it's got me worried sick.   Do that many people in the general Population actually get this.  

I tried looking up some but my computer kept taking me back to the first page.    Have u ever seen herpes transmit this way?  Or is it just not well documented because most people have Intercourse after mutual masterbation? What would you say my risk is 1 in however many chance?