[Question #12994] Unprotected BJ and follow-up

3 months ago

Hi doctors! Great Forum!

I was wondering if you could help me.

I am married and recently I had a drunken affair with one of my teammates. (We play sports in a co ed team) She is from Brazil dont know if that plays a role and me from Germany. Long Story Short, about two weeks round about i recieved a blowjob unprotected and kissed intensley.

I have not showed symptoms, of discharge or blisters like the ones you see online. I did feel some irriattion after 7 days and it went away within 7 days. although no fever, flu or bliste rlike symptoms. My penis feels normal. Last time i got checked me and my wife tested negative for all stds (inclduing HSV1/2) and we both have no history of cold sores. My question is now. I am in like day 20. Should I test for Herpes or any other Stds? You think I caught something? Thanks!

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner

3 months ago

If you tested negative previously for both viruses, it is unlikely that you acquired HSV1 asymptomatically from this encounter. Receiving oral sex is not a risk for HSV 2

You could test for herpes, but be aware that it is too early for an accurate result AND there are false positives on these tests for both types. I would recommend, if you tetst, that you use LabCorp - they have a better IgG now than Quest.

Terri

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3 months ago

Hi Dr. Terri,

Thank you for your nice message. Here In Germany we not have Labcop or Quest. The test we did was from Synlab - IGG-AK. Let me just make sure if I understand.

HSV 2 is not a risk correct?
She did not have any sores at the time of the event, at least outside in the lips and it happened only once. You say that maybe I did not catch anything? I am also Circumsizse, dont know if it helps?
I think This Friday it will be 21 days after our contact, do you really think I should test in maybe 6 or 8 weeks?
Finally, you think I should test for anything else? Like HIV?
Do you believe I can have unprotected sex with my wife or should wait?

Today I had a bad experience with a doctor in Germany, A private urologist that I had to pay cash.
I told him the situation and he told me I could catch like 10 different things from the oral sex. I said that I could do an urine test but he wanted to check my sperm? He wanted to charge me more, maybe thats why and thats when I found the website. anyways, thank you for your help.

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner

3 months ago

HSV 2 is not a risk correct? Correct. HSV 2 is very rarely oral, and when it is oral, it is very rarely active
She did not have any sores at the time of the event, at least outside in the lips and it happened only once. You say that maybe I did not catch anything? I am also Circumsizse, dont know if it helps? Yes, uncircumsized men are less likely to acquire STI's in general, I don't think we know that for sure with herpes.
I think This Friday it will be 21 days after our contact, do you really think I should test in maybe 6 or 8 weeks? I don't think you need to test at all, but if you do, I wouldn't test sooner than 8 weeks. The risk here is HSV 1 and you could test for that at 8 weeks if you like
Finally, you think I should test for anything else? Like HIV? you could test for other STI's, other tests are more accurate than the herpes test
Do you believe I can have unprotected sex with my wife or should wait? I can't really tell you what to do about your wife, but if you do the other tests and remain asymptomatic, I think you are likely OK but again, your decision.

Terri

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3 months ago

Hi Dr. Terri,

Today I found out some information that I do not know how to take it. The girl that this event happened with, I spoke with her and found out she contracted Herpes on her genital Area last Octobe 2024. She did not have the test swabbed and it was only an visual diagnosis form what she told me, it sounded like. a-primary infection with Fever and everything. She told me she has never had symptoms orally. and her last outbreak was on March in her Genital. she only did oral to me and currently day 21 no blister like those in pictures. or fever maybe I feel uncomfortable but maybe its cus now i Know this. Once again. Thank you for your help.

Question is, now with this information your assessment changes?

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner

3 months ago

No, it doesn't change my assessment.

Terri

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