[Question #13113] STI Concern After Low-Risk Exposure and Wife’s Symptoms

2 months ago

Dec 13, 2024, I briefly inserted a finger into a massage therapist’s underwear and touched her outer vulva — no fingering or penetration. I contacted a small amount of vaginal fluid and wiped it on her underwear; some may have remained. ~20 sec later, I may have used the same or opposite hand to masturbate.

Jan 19, 2025, I had unprotected sex with my wife. 9 days later, she had light spotting for 20+ days. A few days after bleeding started, yellow-green, foul-smelling discharge for 2 days. No pain, no itching, no normal period.

She was later diagnosed with endometrial polyp and BV (treated). Pap smear and HPV were normal. Endometrial thickening. Bleeding stopped the next day after taking tranexamic acid. The polyp detached with her next period after 28 days of Norcolut. On May 26, her last follow-up, no symptoms or inflammation.

My doctor said STI bacteria from a previous client might have been passed to me via unwashed hands. I tested negative for STI PCR and urine culture on Feb 19.

Wife and gynecologist are unaware of my exposure.

Could I have caught chlamydia, passed it to my wife, then naturally cleared it before testing? 2. Do her symptoms fit STI? 3. Can STI bleeding stop that fast? 4. Could she have an STI? 5. Should she get STI PCR?

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

2 months ago

These are repeat questions already discussed. You are expecting far too much from an online forum.

"I briefly inserted a finger into a massage therapist’s underwear and touched her outer vulva — no fingering or penetration". This was no risk for any STD, as we have discussed. It has nothing to do with your wife's symptoms.

"My doctor said STI bacteria from a previous client might have been passed to me via unwashed hands." That never happens. Your doctor is wrong or you misunderstood. I suspect you pressed him to come up with an answer and I doubt he really believes this.

"Wife and gynecologist are unaware of my exposure." There is no reason they have to know. However, since you are worried about it, I suggest you tell them.

1. "Could I have caught chlamydia, passed it to my wife, then naturally cleared it before testing?" No. Not only can she not have chlamydia, but it cannot clear up naturally so fast.

2,4. "do her symptoms fit STI?" and "could she have an STI?" These are the same question using different words. The answer is no.

3. "Can STI bleeding stop that fast?" This doesn't matter since she has no STI.

5. "Should she get STI PCR?" She already had that. Chlamydia tests are PCR.

YOU HAVE NO STD AND NEITHER DOES YOUR WIFE. HER SYMPTOMS HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR ZERO RISK OUTSIDE SEXUAL ACTIVITIES. YOU MAY NOT KEEP RETURNING HERE TO ASK THE SAME QUESTIONS AGAIN AND AGAIN.

Please note the forum policy against repeated questions on the same topic. This being your third question in a little over a week on these topics and your last. Repetitive questions are deleted without reply and without refund of the posting fee. The forum sponsor doesn't want repeated payment for questions already answered (or whose answers are obvious from previous discussions) and repeated answers tend to prolong rather than relieve anxiety. In addition, such questions have reduced educational value for other users, one of the forum's goals. Thank you for your understanding.

HHH, MD

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