Hello and I’m back because my anxiety has gotten the better of me and researching Reddit had ruined my mental health. As I cannot test yet I want to get a risk assessment. I broke up with my partner and started making a few stupid decisions, I’ve received oral from 4-5 different people, I had unprotected vaginal twice with two different women, both these women were pretty low risk with only 1-2 previous partners in their early 20s no drug use. And one protected vaginal with another woman. I live in Arizona and it seems hiv rate is pretty low here. The main thing that has me worried is I had unprotected vaginal with a woman and about 12 days later she has a sore throat. Should I be worried I have hiv? I can’t test for about a month and a half but anxiety is killing me? Should I even be worried. Should I just not test and forget about it from a risk standpoint? I keep making stupid decisions in the heat of the moment. If it were you would you be worried about testing? Or would you just move on. How at risk am I for hiv and other stds? 

She has a sore throat and her period is now 8 days late 

I will add all of these encounters happened within about a month of eachother. 

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What freaked me out was seeing a bunch of people mention on Reddit they had acquired hiv from vaginal. But it seems to be fairly rare how ever. How do people have sex without worrying about hiv?? I don’t understand. Is it just lack of education or is my brain making it way bigger of a deal than It actually is in regard to how prevalent it is. Like. Talking to my coworker who has lived for 36 years and he’s somewhat of a player and has had sex with many many women in his life claims to have never used condoms yet isn’t worried about hiv. Is hiv something that you don’t even need to test for if you’re in a straight relationship? 

I know the oral wasn’t much risk I’m just worried about the unprotected vaginal and protected vaginal sex. The protected incident I confirmed the condom was not broken and it was on the entire time. So the risk for hiv there is basically 0 percent correct? What is my risk for the unprotected times? Like I said one only had 1 sexual partner and the other had only had 2. Sorry I’m going in and on and I’m just terrified. Should I even worry about testing at all? I know for the peace of mind aspect. But if it was you would you just move on and forget about it from a medical risk standpoint. 

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Hello my final question. I noticed in between a few of my bottom teeth on the gums looks fibrous? Like it’s hard to explain but it looks like little fiber clusters in the shape of my gums. Does this sound like hpv? Doesn’t seem like growths just fills in where my gums are it’s just odd looking like it’s fibrous. The gums look a little swollen as well. If it is hpv what would I do? I haven’t given oral sex in a couple years. Do I just wait it out? Can I still kiss people and have sex if it is? I hear hpv is common. Should I worry about removing them if it’s hpv as well? Or if they don’t bug me should I just move on and forget about it? 

Not sure if I’m explaining how it looks properly. Like in between my tooth is my gum but it has little gaps in it and looks a little swollen. Like little fibers. 

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