[Question #13347] Hsv

2 days ago

my husband and I have been married for 13 years. He was a virgin I was not. I have had three blood hsv2 negative tests over these last 13 years but do suffer from cold sores but take a daily Valtrex. I always worry I have genital herpes but have never been diagnosed. My husband has chafing from a 4 day backpacking trip (sorry tmi) we were going to do stuff and I thought I felt something so before we did anything I looked very carefully and found very small cut (on the middle of the shaft) in a different spot. Where I felt something there was nothing there where I thought there was.

He didn’t know the cut was even there and didn’t complain of pain at all. So now I’m worried he has herpes (I do oral sometimes but never with a cold sore and always on valtrex). I’m going on a trip and he will have the kids so I’m worried he will pass it on to them while I’m gone.

2 days ago

Either by wiping my daughters bottom on the toilet or by not taking proper precautions like I do.My daughter gets in my bed at night sometimes and my husband only sleeps in his boxers so I’m worried about transmission that way. With her cuddling him. Or when he showers and gets the floor wet I’m worried it can transfer from contaminated water droplets. Am I crazy for thinking this way? Also worried about them touching his dirty wet towel and then them using the bathroom or getting dressed. My toddler is going through the phase of touching her bottom when she gets dressed.I’m considering canceling cause I’m such a mess. My husband isn’t even worried about the cut he has because he doesn’t feel anything and doesn’t even care to look. He knows my hsv fears and it drives him nuts. Also does it sound like herpes? Do you think my kids will be fine while I’m gone?

Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner

1 days ago

I don't think I would use the term crazy but I definitely think your worries border on obsessive compulsive worries. I think your children will be absolutely fine while you are away. What your husband has doesn't sound like HSV but you could ask him to test in the future since you are so worried. I'm concerned about your mental health about HSV and their impact on your children and your marriage.

Terri

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1 days ago

I am too concerned about it. My husband doesn’t know that this is pretty much killing me inside because it would make him mad. The small cut was scabbed the next morning. The night after I saw it. He’s not concerned at all. My guess if it is hsv is it’s from oral. I’m just worried about my younger daughter while I’m gone. I don’t voice any of this to my kids so they don’t know anything. I know I can’t tell my husband to take precautions while I’m gone because it will cause more problems. The cut he had was really small with no redness or anything around it. He never even felt it. I do for sure have ocd. I’ve been in counseling for it.

16 hours ago

Also, do you think that water that comes off his body after the shower could be infectious? The floor is always wet when he is done. Our closet and bathroom are connected and my daughter’s dresser is in our closet. She gets dressed in there. I’m worried she will sit in it or walk in it and then it will touch her undies or she might put her undies in the wetness and they will infect her.