[Question #13393] Unprotected Oral Sex with Street Worker. Chances of getting anything?

1 days ago

Had a drunk night at a bachelor party and made the biggest mistake of my life. Had unprotected oral sex with a sex worker. She blowed me for like 10 minutes and I went down on her for the same time. We also kissed in the mouth. What are my chances of getting any STI? Should I get tested? I'm freaking out. I don't trust her and assume she has it all because she told my friend he could have sex with her without condom, big red flag.

I am married and my wife is pregnant. I'm terrified to do anything with her and have her lose the baby if I give her an STI. Should I be concerned? What are the chances I have something?

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

1 days ago

Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.

You are overreacting to a near zero risk of STI. Oral sex is inherently safe: not completely free of STI risk, but with far lower chance of infection than vaginal or anal sex. The same is true of cunnilingus (oral-vaginal contact) and kissing. Your chances of an STI are probably under one chance in many thousand, and normally testing is not recommended in this situation. However, since you're so worried, you probably should be tested -- not because of real risk, but for reassurance from the negative test results. If you decide to be tested, I would suggest a urine test for gonorrhea and chlamydia 4-5 days after exposure; and if you really want to go whole hog, syphilis and HIV tests after 6 weeks. I'm not actually recommending it -- only if you decide you need negative test results in order to stop worrying. In the meantime, I see no reason to avoid sex with your wife, regardless of her pregnancy. STIs almost never lead cause pregnant women to "lose the baby".

If somehow I were in your situation, I would wait a few days: if no symptoms (penile discharge, painful urination, penile sores) I would not be tested and would resume unprotected sex with my wife without worry.

Really, settle down. This isn't anywhere as dangerous as situation as you apparently imagine.

HHH, MD

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1 days ago

Incredible. Thank you. Makes me feel more relieved. It’s easy to find things online that freak you out so appreciate your professional reply.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

1 hours ago

Very true about online searching about STIs -- or about almost any health concern. Anybody can write anything they want. People concerned about a health problem should emphasize professional websites (e.g. academic medical centers, public health agencies etc) or at least professionally moderated ones, like our forum. And avoid sites run by an for people with the problem or worried about it (like Reddit for example). Anybody can write anything they want, and mistaken information -- naively or intentionally -- is exceedingly common.

Thanks for the thanks!

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