A woman I was with was fingering herself and then put her fingers in my mouth.  We didn’t have intercourse or oral sex with each other. 

1) Can I (a male) get gonorrhea or chlamydia in the mouth from that?  

2) if so, can you transmit oral gonorrhea or chlamydia to another woman’s vagina?

In women who develop complicated infections due to gonorrhea or chlamydia (pelvic inflammatory disease -PID) scarring due to the infection can cause infertility, increase risk for tubal pregnancy and chronic pelvic pain. If the woman is not planning to have children, there is still a risk of chronic pelvic pain due to scarring.  As noted above, this is not a concern in the situation you describe.

I see no reason for concern regarding the exposure you describe and no reason for STI testing.  EWH

1) I wanted to run this by you, I’ve been with my GF for a year and I was tested for HIV at 9 months in. We don’t use condoms. She hasn’t been tested since we’ve been together. I think there was one BF between her last test and me. We are in a long term relationship.  If she had HIV would probably have been transmitted to me by the 9 month mark? 

2.  Anyone can get a penile fungal infection, it's just that persons with diabetes or HIV are more likely to get them.  Unless you've had trouble with treatment, I would not worry about your penile fungal infection- just get it treated.  EWH

Lastly, 

1) I got tested for HIV and Syphilis with other blood work at a regular physical. Both came back negative. However, 7 days later i noticed a lump on the lower end of my shaft where my penis connects to my body/scrotum. Surrounded by pubic hair. It’s a lump, not tender or oozing. Looks a little red. I haven’t shaved at all…….If that were a syphilis chancre would my test be positive 7 days ago? (Btw Dr thought it was cyst from hair follicle) 

2) following up on my previous reply, if a couple has unprotected sex for a year and if one has syphilis how likely is it the other partner would get it in a year’s time?

2A) would syphilis probably be transmitted by a year via unprotected straight sex?

3) how would a hair follicle/cyst differ from a syphilis chancre?

4) i was given a cream for the cyst and 100mg of Doxy twice a day for 7 days. Would that cure syphilis as well if I had it?

4) lastly should be concerned at all? 

1.  Lesion you described sounds nothing like an STI including Syphilis. It is also in a location where Syphilis lesions rarely if ever occurs.  As your doctor has already told you, it is in an area where folliculitis is common and what you describe would be the typical presentation of early folliculitis.

2.  The transmission of Syphilis is dependent on whether or not there is direct contact with the lesion and how many times that contact occurs. Estimates are that Syphilis is transmitted by lesion contact about 25 to 30% of the time following a single exposure. Obviously multiple exposures increase the risk of transmission

3.  Absolutely. A Syphilis chancre is an open sore and in 80% of time Syphilis chancres occur on the penis shaft or head of the penis. Folliculitis on the other hand occurs in areas where body hair or hair follicles are present and starts with a red somewhat tender bump, which can grow. Overtime folliculitis may form a pustule ( pimple)  which can break open.

3.  See above 

4.  Yes, seven days of doxycycline taken twice a day would cure Syphilis. The recommended duration of therapy is 10 days, but seven days would almost certainly be effective.  Doxycycline would also potentially cure folliculitis.

5.  I would have no concerns whatsoever.

I hope that the information I have provided has been helpful. As you know, we provide up to three responses to each clients questions. This is my third response. Therefore, this thread will be closed shortly without further responses. There should be no need for further questions regarding the encounter you’ve described. EWH.