You nervous, professional, healthcare worker divorced and dating 40-something returning to the forum for comfort (I appreciate your services so much navigating my way through sex in the past couple of years after a completely faithful marriage of 15 years). I have learned so much from this forum and use it actively while being single and dating, but 16 days ago I did something completely human, but out of my nature. I had unprotected vaginal sex with a 43 year old divorced man with limited partners and no STDs according to his report that I had been seeing for a few weeks before. We also engaged in reciprocal unprotected oral sex. VERY shortly after, this man ended our relationship extremely abruptly, which immediately made me upset and anxious and is likely fueling my fears of a non existent STI. No symptoms. Negative for Chlamydia/Gonorhea/Trich 4 days after the encounter via vaginal swab. No herpes lesions (have checked religiously) in 16 days, so breathing a sigh of relief there in that window passing and then some, and have moved onto Syphilis as my latest obsession. Looking daily for the chancre. Not worried about HIV as my brain does not have the capacity to, but know the odds from Dr. HHH especially. Can either of you just shoot me some statistics to ease my mind about Syphilis and HIV, and take my annual dating donation as my thank you? lol. Thank you docs, appreciate you so much.