First of all, i would like to thank everyone who is handling this amazing forum. I have been following it since it was on Medhelp as i had unbelievable anxiety few years back regarding HIV and this anxiety was crushing my happiness everytime. I will go straight to my questions. I went to massage center and the workers are gays, my encounter was on two days. The first day, i had a massage and the guy did body to body as i was laying on my back and he was on top of me. The risk here was due to his penis was grinding my penis and he was inserting my penis between his thighs back and forth like having intercourse but between his thighs until i cum (I don’t remember if my penis touched his anus). All the above activities were unprotected. The second day, i went to the same center and the risk here was the guy kissed my penis from the bottom and it was one very quick light kiss, then he performed oral (sucking) my penis but i made sure the condom was intact the whole time and i was holding the bottom of the condom to make sure it doesn’t slip away. Then, took condom off and ejaculated near his mouth but my penis didn’t touch his mouth. Also, i am 90% sure that the condom didn’t torn off. Right now, i am planning to wait few days before i get tested for STIs  so i can have sex with my wife safely. So what are the risks of all the above activities in regards to STIs and whether i should worry about it? Also, what is the risk of getting fingered?

Thank you in advance.

As for the receipt of condom protected oral, again, be confident that the condom did it's job.  When condoms fail, they break wide open leaving no doubt that they failed.  

"fingering" is another form of masturbation and like other forms of masturbation carries no risk for STIs- there is general agreement by the WHO, the CDC and experts in the field including us, that participating in mutual masturbation is a no risk activity for STIs.

I see no need for testing.  You can participate in unprotected sex with your wife without concern that you might have acquired an STI from the encounters you have described.  I am aware however that some clients, despite our assurances, desire that added comfort of negative tests.  If that is the case for you, you can conclusively test for gonorrhea and chlamydia any time more than 3-5 days after your last encounter and can test for syphilis and HIV with a blood test at 6 weeks or more.  Should you choose to test, I am confident that the tests will show that you were not infected.  EWH