I’m bisexual but I never had penetrated sex with a man. I’ve always wanted to bottom. I am 37 years old. I tested over a year ago and I was negative. I always use condoms with women and when it comes to men in just do oral and kissing which I know is low risk. I met a man who is 60 years old. The was married to a woman for over 30 years but she is now deceased. He claims he gets tested yearly and that he is clean. Like you said in your answers to people that most people do not lie about their status. We are going to have sex this week for the first time. I will be the bottom. I bought water based lubricant because I know all other lubricants can weaken the condom. I know the FDA just approved an anal sex condom but I haven’t been able to find it. Will a regular condom still be as effective? If the condom is on through the whole time and used properly will my chances of HIV be low? I know he stated that he is clean but sometimes people do lie. Any other preparations that I should take?

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Last question. Besides water lubricants what is another lubricant that won’t weaken the condom

There has been no reported research on this; all we know is that oil-based lubricants can weaken latex and lead to breakage. Even oil based lubes are considered to be safe with non-latex condoms, e.g. polyurethane.---