She mentioned that she was tested in the past and all clean (she didn’t say how long ago). She mentioned she had a kid, I think she might be also married, so maybe not very active, but not certain. As an additional data point, she was in her mid-40’s, and have read a post here from Dr Hook saying that women that age are less likely to be infectious, even if the are infected. Not a profesional. No visible sores. I have not had any other exposure in 10 years.

I feel very guilty and now I have a trip with my wife to South America in a couple of days for 10 days - so I can’t do any testing. We always have unprotected sex.