Thank you for creating this forum. I would like a second opinion on advice I have been given by an STI clinic.

I contacted the clinic to explain my events and asked whether I should be tested for STI’s. My main worry is HIV as it is tested for as part of my Saudi employment visa.

I had long periods of open mouth deep French kissing with a girl I met on a dating app. I also fingered her vagina.

The clinic gave me quite a detailed reassurance: stating that these events were no risk for HIV acquisition. I was told that HIV does not survive in the mouth due to saliva (even if she had a cut, which would mix with the saliva and dilute the virus); and the virus does not infect others when transferred on a person’s hands (even if an infected partner’s vaginal fluids were on fingers and the tip of the penis was touched).

I was told there is no reason to test for HIV based on these events; and testing will only ever be advised when there is unprotected vagina or anal sex.

The clinic ended our discussion with: “Please don’t worry at all, you are absolutely clear of HIV”.

Do you agree with this advice? Having two medical professionals’ matching advice will certainly help me be worry free - particularly from world renowned experts like yourselves.

Kind regards

Darious

I have officially started a relationship recently with my now girlfriend and want to engage in unprotected sex with her in the very near future without any concerns.