This is a slightly embarrassing situation, however, I hope that you can assist me with your medical guidance.

Last week, I was the subject of a drink spike by a female whilst on holiday in Spain with friends. This was confirmed by local authorities who reviewed the CCTV footage of the bar we were in. 

I did not have sex or do bits (oral) with this female as we never left the bar. However, I have been told that we did do ‘tonsil tennis’ for 2/3 minutes - which I think is known as ‘deep kissing’.

I know nothing about this female or her sex life.

Out of caution, I visited the local hospital in Spain and the Doctor told me not to test for any STD as there was no penile penetration of the vagina or anus.

My biggest stress is HIV as my partner and I are set to immigrate to Australia in April and this forms part of the medical testing under the long-term residence visa. My partner is also currently 8.5 months pregnant and due any time now, therefore I daren’t tell her about this event given the worry it will cause her and the potential effects to our son.

Please can you confirm:

1. If I am in the clear of HIV

2. If I need to test for HIV

3. If I can engage in sex with my partner in the future without her needing to know about this.

Many thanks

I'm sorry to hear of this unpleasant situation and how much it is upsetting you. However, the doctor you saw is exactly right:  there was no risk at all for HIV or any other STI. These bacteria and viruses cannot be transmitted through drink or food. That would be the case even if the woman who spiked your drink is infected with HIV and her blood somehow was included with the drug spike. If your tests for Australia entry include HIV or other STIs, you can be sure of negative results from the event described.

2. You do not need to be tested for HIV.

3. You can safely have unprotected sex with your partner and do not need to inform her of this experience.

Let me know if anything isn't clear. Best wishes and stay well.

HHH, MD

Does your ‘no risk at all for HIV or any other STI’ also relate to the deep kissing? (i.e your answers to Q1-3 are still the same for this event).

I just want to move on with my life, forget this nightmare and look forward to being a Dad. I have refrained from spending hours on the internet as I only want experienced STI expertise, like yourself.

Thank you for your help.

Do you best to separate your anxieties about the drugging aspect from your concerns about HIV or any other infection. These are entirely different issues and I see no reason they are connected in your emotional react to the event.

I appreciate that this is my final post before the thread is closed and want to round off with summarising what you have said; and from what I have read on the forum:

1. No risk at all of HIV from deep kissing. 

2. My residency visa blood test will be negative for HIV (based on deep kissing).

Thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to comment. I am pleased that I have managed to find a professionally moderated forum with straight science based answers and not ‘what if’ opinions on the internet. I will be happy to recommend this forum to others.