[Question #13842] HIV - Hope you can help

1 months ago

Last month I became depressed after my fiancée broke off our wedding. I resorted to going out often and drinking heavily.

I met a woman in a bar and she offered to drive me home, which I naively accepted. When we arrived at my house, we ended up having 10 mins of deep French kissing in the car.

I do not remember anything about this woman’s gum condition, cuts in the mouth etc. However, we absolutely did not have any penetrative intercourse or any oral sex.

My fiancée and I have spoken over the last week and decided to give our marriage another go; and we have also discussed starting a family.

Of course my actions 2 weeks ago have got me incredibly nervous (especially since I have no knowledge of this woman’s STI history).

I daren’t search online as it will only lead to worry. I wanted to hear the advice of STI professionals to hopefully ease my concerns.

Please can you advise:

1. Am I clear of HIV?

2. Am I worrying for nothing?

3. Can I have unprotected intercourse with my fiancée again?

Thank you

Edward W. Hook M.D.

1 months ago

Welcome to the Forum. Thanks for your questions. I'll be glad to comment. The short version is that you are not at meaningful risk for HIV or other STIs from the events you describe. HIV is not transmitted by kissing.

1. Yes

2. Yes

3. This is a personal decision. I would have no concerns.

EWH

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1 months ago

Dr Hook - thank you for answering so promptly.

HIV was my main worry.

Summarising your medical advice:

1. Absolutely no reason to worry about HIV from deep French kissing - everything is good?

2. Based on the science, I do not need to be tested for HIV?

3. I can now move on with my life without any concerns whatsoever and forget about this event?

Thank you again.

Edward W. Hook M.D.

1 months ago

I agree with your summary statements. Scientifically there is no reason for concern and no reason for HIV testing. I encourage you to move on without concern. EWH.---