Good morning,

I have been in a monogamous relationship for 25 years. Last night, I met an old friend whom I had not seen for about 20 years. At the end of the evening, in the car park, we exchanged three or four brief kisses on the lips (without tongue). I also kissed her a couple of times on the neck. She briefly touched me over my trousers in the genital area.

I realize this may sound minor, but perhaps due to my lack of knowledge, I am now concerned about any possible risk.

Could you please advise whether there is any need for HIV testing in this situation? Also, should I avoid sexual contact with my wife as a precaution? I would like to avoid telling my wife about this occasional and one off situation.

Thank you very much for your guidance.

Kind regards,  

Sometimes there's enough information in the title of a question to reply with confidence. Neither HIV or any STD is transmitted by kissing -- even with prolonged, open mouth kissing -- or so rarely the risk can be ignored. And having read the entire question, for sure there was no risk at all. There is no possibility at all of HIV/STD transmission from the brief kiss you described. Hand-genital contact also is zero risk; even if she had masturbated you there would be no chance of infection. And no virus or bacteria can be transmitted through clothing. You will never be at risk for HIV or other STD until and unless you have unprotected intercourse with a potentially high risk partner.

So no need for testing and you can safely continue your normal sex life with your wife without putting her at risk.

Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

Thanks for the thanks. I'm glad to have helped.