Unfortunately there is so much conflicting information online about my circumstances. I wish to hear the opinions of professionals who work in the STI field on a daily basis.

I am a heterosexual man and my girlfriend is currently 6 months pregnant. Due to stresses of work and our house purchase collapsing, we decided to take a short break apart. However, due to the pending birth of our daughter, we have now got back together.

In this 3 month gap apart I have not had any penetrative sex with anyone (vaginal / anal / giving or receiving oral sex). 

However, I have done ‘bits’ with 2 females that I went on dates with separately. This included:

Date 1:

Date 2:

I am petrified about infecting my girlfriend and therefore had a private phone consultation with an STI clinic. The nurse advised, from a science pov, not to test for HIV or any other STI based on these events as no penile penetration into a vagina, anus or mouth took place.

To be transparent, I have told my girlfriend about these events and she has forgiven me. She has not engaged in sexual activities with anyone during our separation.

I look forward to hearing your medical opinion. I hope that you agree with the nurse that I have nothing to worry about.

Kind regards