And then, if you allowed me, I will ask my particular question for particular incident that happened to me

This is the general question

What worries me most is that I have read online that HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact. I really need more information about this. Does this mean that any contact between the intact skin of an infected person and that of an uninfected person can transmit the virus, or does there need to be friction? Can transmission happen even when there is no visible lesion, or must the infected person have a lesion? If the infected person does have a lesion, does the other person need to have a scratch or minor injury as well, or can the virus still be transmitted through intact skin? If so, which areas of the skin can transmit the virus even without micro-injuries? Finally, what if I completely avoid skin-to-skin contact while using a condom?