If instead of asking a new question every time you have an exposure that concerns you, I would suggest you go back and read your questions and our replies on the previous ones. Probably the answers are there. Just get this straight and remember it:  without  your unprotected penis (i.e. no condom) entering a partner's vagina or rectum, your risk for HIV and other STIs will be zero -- or sufficiently low risk that it can be disregarded and no testing will be needed before resuming sex with your wife. Even unprotected oral sex is no risk for HIV and low risk for most STIs.  If you would like additional reassurance, then rather than asking about each now low risk event, consider being tested for gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis and HIV after every third or fourth such non-marital sexual event --rather than testing every time.