Dr HH I have put myself in a similar situation many years back.  I am a generally faithful husband and made 2nd mistake in 15 years.  I am a white male living in South Africa and the other night I met a white female in a bar.  We were both drunk and she was pretty rough in my opinion.  We took our clothes off and because I didn't have a condom I got on top of her and grinded my penis up and down between her labia and tried not to penetrate.  There was a lot of grinding and she was super wet.  She was actually a squirter.  At one instance I felt the head of my penis go close to penetrating but I pulled back.  It felt like the head of my penis nearly went in but then we stopped and gave each other mutual maturation and she then gave me oral and let me finish in her mouth.  Its 6 days post incident and I have had no symptoms.  I did take 200mg doxypep 62 hours after but im more worried about Hiv and possibly herpes.  Im totally guilt struck and scared to sleep with my wife but I know shes going to start wondering why.  As I say this is my second incident in 15 years and ive learned from experience to stay calm.  As I said 6 days post incident and no symptoms.  Please can u give me some advice as to what I must do and what STDs I could contract including HIV.  There was a lot of fluids and secretions during the frottage.  Can u also tell me what percentage of people experience ARS and would I have had symptoms by now if I contracted herpes ?  Thanks

The grinding and wet frottage did continue for a while and I was on top