I also performed oral sex a few times when he was wearing underwear.  

No, you cannot get an STI from giving oral sex to  someone wearing underwear.  And also you are not going to get herpes from someone putting their finger in your mouth with some semen on the finger.  It turns out that semen is not at all a good carrier of virus plus you need a significant amount of virus to infect an adult.  If you plan to become more closely intimate with your boyfriend, you might consider both getting STI tested so you don't need to be quite so concerned about this.  However, as you know, that only works if neither of you has sex with anyone else after testing. 

Thanks for your question, and if you have one more post with questions, do let me know, OK?

Terri
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One more Question left Ma'am,

Sorry Correction

There is no risk of any STI from performing oral sex through underwear not is there any real risk of another STI from  the finger to mouth contact, nope, I believe you are in the clear!

Terri
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I guess that I cannot 100% rule out you acquiring an STI from the situation that you describe for example, if most of what you though was semen was gonorrhea discharge, for example, but that seems totally far fetched to me and borders on impossible.  People who come here often want 100% reassurance about this or that and we can't honestly give that but we can say, for example in this situation, the odds are probably one in a million that this would transmit an STI

Terri
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