Hi there, thanks for this service. I'm in BC.  I'm a married male to a female and had a couple encounters with another male.  I have known him on and off for a number of years.  He told me he does not have any STI's is neg and on prep.  My concern is HSV 1 or 2.  Our interactions were basically mutual masturbation (which the dr's on here mention carry basically no risk), he barley touched me.  I gave him oral with a condom.  No lesions noted on him and again he said he does not have HSV.  My concern is i don't remember the timeline off our interactions (as this happened a few months ago) so not sure of the approx average 5 days onset of symptoms.  Possibly around that time I had flu like symptoms for 2-3 days, mild fever and fatigue (still was able to work) that also included diarrhea for those days which I hear is uncommon for the onset of HSV.  I did not notice any painful lesion/blisters on my penis at that time or an oral lesions.  I was masturbating on and off and I think one time I irritated my penis with my wedding ring and it left a friction type lesion on my upper shaft.  To make matters more interesting, at the same time I was using topical lotions for a groin intertrigo that led to a canadida secondary infection (1 week of lamisl, 2 weeks of ketoderm).  My mind went right to thinking this lesion in genital HSV.  Could I get genital HSV from giving Oral? Again a condom was used.  No penetration anally or was that area touched.  I saw a similar situation on here and the Dr said "theoretical risk IF lesion was present" .  I for sure have anxiety around these situations probably due to having a partner. Hope this makes sense. Hoping I don't need testing and can have encounters with my wife and put this behind me.