[Question #14072] Very anxious about possible HPV exposure (oral sex + fingering)

3 hours ago

Hi, I’d really appreciate a clear answer because this is causing me a lot of anxiety.

I am a male in my 20s with no previous sexual experience. My only sexual contact was receiving oral sex from a girl 5 times over 3 months with kisses (including deep kissing). I also fingered her vagina, and once she briefly put her finger slightly into my anus. There was no vaginal or anal intercourse.

She later told me she has high-risk HPV, including HPV16, with CIN1.

I received Gardasil 9 about 6 days after the first exposure and I am continuing the vaccine schedule. I currently have no visible warts, lesions, or symptoms.

I know HPV testing in men is not routinely recommended, but about 1 month after the last exposure I still did PCR DNA testing from the urethra, penile skin/body, and oral cavity. All results came back negative.

I’ve been reading a lot online and I’m very worried and confused. My main fears are:

whether HPV high risk transmission is realistic from oral sex (from her mouth to my genital), deep kissing, or hand contact in this situation
whether brief anal finger contact could cause infection for anus
Will I have oral HPV from kisses
long-term risk like cancer
whether I could transmit it to a future wife and if I would need to disclose this

Edward W. Hook M.D.

1 hours ago

Welcome to the Forum. Thanks for your questions. I'll start this response by 1) Congratulating you on getting the HPV vaccine - it will do much to prevent you from acquiring HPV; 2) By urging you to stay off the internet which is full of misinformation and : 3) recommending that you look at other posts on this Forum to learn more about HPV - there are hundreds of discussions on the topic. As a generalization, youhave almost nothing to worry about- you do not know that your partner has oral HPV (it is good for her to have told you of her diagnosis) and even if she does, it is rarely acquired from receipt of oral sex. In response to your speciic questions:

1, whether HPV high risk transmission is realistic from oral sex (from her mouth to my genital), deep kissing, or hand contact in this situation.
No, HPV is virtually never transmitted through receipt of masturbation or deep kissing and is rarely acquired from receipt of oral sex.
2. whether brief anal finger contact could cause infection for anus
No, there is no risk of HPV from insertion of a partner's finger into your anus, even of genital secretions were on her fingers.
3. Will I have oral HPV from kisses
See above- no!
4. long-term risk like cancer
Even if you became infected, there is little risk of cancer. Over 90% of HPV infections due to high risk HPV resolve spontaneously over a period of months
5. whether I could transmit it to a future wife and if I would need to disclose this
The topic of disclosure is extensively discussed on other posts. We do not feel that disclosure is needed

I hope this information is helpful. Please review other threads on the Forum regarding HPV. EWH

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