[Question #1412] STDs Risk Assessment

98 months ago

Dear Doc,

last night I visited a strip club in Czech. I had a private dance for an hour. The following happened, my jeans and underwear were on all time. However, she had no clothes on, she rubbed her bare vaginal against my penis in my pants for a total of probably 25 minutes, at times it was a bit aggressive and at other times it was light. I did kiss and sucking her breasts and also kissed her in the neck, face and butt cheeks. I did also touch her vaginal like four times briefly only one time I rubbed it for like a 2 minutes. Also, I inserted a little bit of my index finger in her vagina, there were some secretions. She did suck on my fingers two different times. there was no kissing on mouth, only like a brief kiss that is not fully on mouth but partially because of their strict rules of no kissing.

I'm a bit paranoid, I never engage such activities, I want to know if there was any risk for HIV and other STDs from this kind of activities.

Thanks for your time.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

98 months ago

Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.

You may have a basic misunderstanding about STDs. They are not simply infections that happen to involve the genital area. The bacteria and viruses that cause them evolved to require sex itself for transmission. That almost always means that if there is not direct genital contact -- usually with a penis entering the partner's vagina, rectum, or mouth -- there is no risk for STD. In other words, the kids of exposure you describe, both in your other question and here, do not count as sex for purposes of STD transmission. There is never any STD risk from hand-genital contact, including contact of semen with skin anywhere on the body, including skin with nicks or cuts, and including kissing and mouth contact with small amounts of sexual fluids. And perhaps most important, cloth filters out STD bacteria and viruses, and STDs have never been known to be transmissible through clothing, no matter now wet with genital fluids.

So all is well. You were not at risk for any STD, and will not be until and unless you start having sex that involves intercourse (vaginal, anal, or oral).

I hope these comments have been helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

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H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

98 months ago

That's "how wet with genital fluids".---

98 months ago

Doctor Handsfield,

Thank you very much for your kind informative response.

I only have a small clarification, even if at some point I sucked on a finger of hers that was a moment earlier in her genitals, that still isn't a risk as I understand ?

BR,

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

98 months ago

Still little or no risk. Even direct oral sex is low risk for all STDs and zero risk for some. Given the small amount of genital fluids that might be on a finger, it's really not something to worry about.

The implication of my reply above is that if you don't have actual sex, you can assume you aren't at risk for any STD. If and when that happens, make sure it's safe sex, and preferably with a known partner. Otherwise no worries.

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98 months ago

Thank you very much Dr. Handsfield for your reassuring prompt response. What you are doing here is really great and I'm sure helps a lot of people. Much stress have been alleviated.

Much obliged.

H. Hunter Handsfield, MD

98 months ago

Thanks for the kind words. That's why we're here. Take care and stay safe.

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