Welcome to our Forum. I'll be happy to comment. This was a very low risk encounter- most CSWs do not have STIs, most exposures to infected partners do not lead to transmission, you used a condom for vaginal sex, the highest risk part of the encounter (and condoms that slip down still work as long as they cover the head of the penis), your unprotected oral sex on her rarely leads to infection of any sort and, apparently you are asymptomatic. there is little chance that you are infected. further, your urine test for gonorrhea and chlamydia at six days provides definitive evidence that you did not acquire those infection during your genital contact. As for your specific questions:
What is the window for testing for all STDs; is 6 weeks conclusive for HEPs, Syphillis and HIV?
the window for definitive testing for STIs varies. Your tests for gonorrhea and chlamydia are definitive and do not need to be repeated. A throat swab for gonorrhea (and chlamydia although such infections are quite rare) will likewise provide you with definitive information at this time. A 4th generation HIV test at this time will be definitive and while theoretically while syphilis and hepatitis can take up to three months for tests to become positive, realistically at this time testing would identify nearly all recent infections and can be considered effectively definitive. We do not recommend blood tests for herpes in your situation- that you have not had an outbreak is strong evidence you were not infected.
Should I have a blood draw for Chlamydia and Gonereah since I performed oral and the urine does not indicate this type of exposure?
No, blood tests for these infections are not useful. See above about at throat swab.
What is the increased odds of vaginal HIV transmission since she was a CSW, I see Dr. Hook mentions this non-CSW exposure to be 1/1000 but I see the CDC mentions 1/2500. Which is correct and what is the difference due to possibility of her being a high risk individual?
Realistically, there is not much difference between estimates of HIV risk between 1 in 1000 and 1 in 2500 and if you look you will see that I say the risk of a single, unprotected vaginal exposure with an infected person is less than 1 in 1000. In your case, a condom was used as well. The odds that you have HIV, all things considered are less than 1 in a million.
Are there other STDs I should test for i.e. HTLV-1, Donovanosis, or the Cytomegalovirus?
No need for these tests.
What do you consider my odds of contracting any STI or STD from this exposure; please note I'm mostly concerned with HIV and HEP B. see above, I am relatively confident, even without all tests mentioned above, that you were not infected with any STI, including HIV and hepatitis.
I'm very scared and can't have sex with my wife until I know. If you were me would you be sexually active with a loved one given my circumstances?
If I were you, at this time I would have no hesitation to have unprotected sex with your wife.
I hope these comments are helpful. EWH