Hi, 

Was the condom used for the entire time you were having intercourse?  If yes, even if your partner had herpes, which I am assuming you don't know, the condom would have reduced the transmission rate hugely - more than 95%- as the main site of viral shedding in the male is the penile shaft. 
Nothing you have mentioned worries me except one statement where you said you had a bump that looked like the top had been shaved off?  Was it ulcerated, is that what you meant?  Herpes does not cause a foul odor, but if you have that, you should be seen, especially if you are now having spotting with intercourse.  Herpes does not cause bleeding either.  I seriously doubt any of this is herpes.

Terri
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I do not know if the condom was used the entire time, unfortunately I can't remember the incident.  The person informed me it was.

People with brand new herpes often have cervical involvement, yes, but most often that is accompanied by external genital lesions as well.  I have not seen bleeding with herpes of the cervix, no.  I'm glad to hear the lesion was not ulcerative - that's very good news.  A person could have anal lesions, yes, but normally- not always but normally - we would see labial lesions first in women - recurrences can certainly be anal without an actual anal exposure.

Honestly, if the condom stayed on the entire time, I think herpes is very unlikely here!  Have you ever in your life had a herpes antibody test to know that you were actually negative prior to this incident? And have you asked the man if he has tested and if not, to please test?  If he is negative and your baseline test is negative, you would really have nothing to worry about

Terri
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Thanks for the response, I don't want to waste one of my follow up questions but you asked about testing and I just wanted to clarify that like I said in the first post I recently tested neg for hsv 1&2 igg/igm, and have been tested many times before that. Very careful normally, always have partners tested and no previous symptoms, very certain I was negative prior to this. Not in a position where I can really ask this person to be tested.  I just keep noticing this sort of twinge cramp and im worried about internal herpes.  I'm just worried because you read so many people online who say their primary ob was internal only with similar symptoms as mine. How can the risk be so low if so many people claim to aquire it this way with a condom and have internal only symptoms? 

The question is  this - if the lesions are only internal, how do people know they have herpes?  I don't think people are examining their cervix for lesions with a speculum?  And I don't believe for a moment that people are acquiring herpes on their cervix from an encounter with a male using condoms the entire time - it just makes no scientific sense.  It's very hard to sort out what is real and what isn't on the internet - I feel badly for someone who seeks out these opinions because you have no idea who is scamming readers and who isn't. 

With the IgM test - I have had at least 7 out of 10 people who test positive by IgM who never seroconvert to positive by IgG, which is the test which has been studied well and completely.  A negative IgM test at day 16 is not a reliable indicator that you don't have herpes, no.  And a positive has such a huge chance of being a false positive, I wouldn't recommend it - you will be worried if you get a positive and even with negative subsequent IgG tests, it will be hard for you to believe that you are not infected if your IgM is positive, even with negative IgGs following. 

Sorry, I didn't go back to your other post to get the info about previous testing for you.

We know that condoms reduce the risk of acquiring HSV by more than 95% and we don't even know this person has herpes!    I really think the odds are on your side here.

Terri
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