You have been seriously overtested. Frist, the large majority of escorts are pretty safe, have low risk clients (men like you), and rarely have HIV. (By "escort" I mean expensive female sex workers by appointment, as opposed to brothel workers and bar pickups.) So it is unlikely your partner had HIV. Also, the average risk from a single episode of vaginal sex, if the woman has HIV, is once for every 2,500 exposures. Therefore, this exposure really didn't need HIV testing at all.

And for certain it did not require the number of tests you have had. The current HIV tests are among the most accurate diagnostic tests ever developed, for any medical condition. The duo tests (also called 4th generation, combo, or antigen-antibody tests) are 100% conlusive 4 weeks (sometimes as long as 6 weeks) after exposure. Therefore, your 35 day test result was conclusive, and every test after that was unnecessary and a waste of money.

If you continue to remain obsessed with the possibility you caught HIV, I would recommend professional counseling. I suggest it from compassion, not criticism. But it is not normal to remain so fearful after such strong scientific evidence. Do not have any more HIV test. And you should have resumed sex with your wife several months ago, and certainly can do so now.

I hope this information is helpful. Let me know if anything isn't clear.

HHH, MD

 

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Best wishes and stay safe.