[Question #2347] Body to body massage with Happy ending - fearing STI or STD

44 months ago
I went in for body on body massage with Happy ending at the Sunflower spa at Tanjong Pagar, Singapore. A Chinese girl came, gave me a towel and I undressed completely and wore the towel.
Then she removed all her clothes except wearing G-string. I removed my towel.I pressed myself hard against her and pressed her body. I became crazy and asked for kiss and she pinched my lips with her fingers and kissed lightly but did touched outer lips to my outer lips. This happened couple of times. Next we were all over each other. I tried to suck her breasts I did but she stopped me..though I did 2 times foe 2-3 seconds.
Next she pressed her breasts against my penis and then gave me handjob. I lick her lower leg and she immidiately stopped me but I did licked for 2-3 seconds. No blow job, no insertion in Vagina, But I did ejaculated when she was giving me handjob. I am concerned with risk of getting a STI or STD. I am married and have a fairhful wife. I am feeling ashamed of my foolishness. I am a diabetic with high cholestrol.
1. Can I get any sex related infection or disease?
2. What I can do to remove all my worries like tests, what all tests?
3. Can I have sex with my wife again?
Thanks Please answer considering every pount. 
44 months ago
Dear Doctor,
Just to add that I was not wearing any condom during this. 
4. Also apart from below question, Please let me know if it can cause Herpes or HPV gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, hepatitis B. I am not vaccinated for Hep. B.
Please let me know if there is any concern and any tests with timing for tests to be done. I want to back on my life asap...hope its just not too late...
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
Welcome to the Forum. I will be happy to comment.  The activities that you describe did not put you at risk for any STI.  Body rubbing without genital penetration, and receipt of masturbation (hand job) are no risk activities that does not put you at any risk for any STI.  Similarly, that you kissed various part of your masseuse's  body does not put you at risk for any STI.  Thus,

1. Can I get any sex related infection or disease?
No

2. What I can do to remove all my worries like tests, what all tests?
There is no need for testing of any sort.

3. Can I have sex with my wife again?
Yes, there is no reason for you to abstain from unprotected sex with your wife in relationship to any of the activities that you have described. 

I hope my comments are helpful to you.  EWH
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44 months ago
Looks like my additional question got missed due to timing of reply...reproducing again..gentle request..please keep my one question still open as I may have a query after discussion with my wife tomorrow...Thank you for the answers...
"Dear Doctor,
Just to add that I was not wearing any condom during this. 
4. Also apart from below question, Please let me know if it can cause Herpes or HPV gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, hepatitis B. I am not vaccinated for Hep. B."
5. Also I have a small pimple cameup within 4-5 hours at my upper back not sure if the Masseur licked on that area or not..is this an indication of herpes outset or something else?
Please let me know if there is any concern and any tests with timing for tests to be done. I want to back on my life asap...hope its just not too late...
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
4.  As noted above, when I said that you were not at risk for any STI, that did include herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV hepatitis B and most likely HPV although little is known about transmission of the latter.  Certainly there are no reports of HPV related to frottage, kissing or receipt of masturbation

5. The pimple on your back is assuredly not herpes from the exposure you describe or related in any way to an infection acquired in the encounter you have described.  EWH
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44 months ago
Thank you Doctor.
I recall one more thing that when I sucked the breasts of the Masseur girl I bit them and she scolded me..however, when I suck the breats few times I felt like some liquid came in my mouth...Can it cause me any STI...Please tell me. Also pls do let me jnow if I should go for some tests before kissing my children or wife..or love making to my wife...
44 months ago
updated reply.
Thank you Doctor.
I recall one more thing that when I sucked the breasts of the Masseur girl I bit them and she scolded me..however, when I suck the breats few times I felt like some liquid came in my mouth...Can it cause me any STI...Please tell me. Also pls do let me jnow if I should go for some tests before kissing my children or wife..or love making to my wife...
I just told my wife and she is totally broken..I am crying for last 30 min. and felt like puking and did felt so rushed to toilet bowl it came just some water but no vomit..added details for your advise.
Thanks again

Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
Even if you did happen to ingest breast milk or some other secretion (including blood) from her breast, there would be no risk for any STI.  There is no need for testing of any sort.  Neither your wife or your children are at any risk from the events you have describe.  You need to work to move forward from here.  part of this is being confident that you are not at risk from your activities.

Thi sis my third reply to your questions.  As per Forum Guidelines, this thread will be closed in a few hours.  Take care.  EWH


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44 months ago
Thanks Doctor.
just reconfirming on lop to lip kiss with the messeur girl as mentioned in my initial post...can it cause Syphilis?
44 months ago

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Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
This was a no risk event.  EWH
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