[Question #2599] Safe Play

44 months ago
I have contacted you before and I'm always feeling bad and stupid but better to ask than be sorry. I was in Las Vegas tonight and you know the rest! Ok, I spent 2 hours with a lady at a strip club!

She touched me several times but really more grabbed me than actually masturbated me.  I did masturbate her a little and have mild cuts from fingernail bitting...another bad habit. She kissed me a few times lip to lip no deep or French kissing and finally although I only got to her panties my lips touched them briefly a few times. No penetration of any kind other than my finger with nail bitting plus other mentioned. I'm always disappointed with my self which you can't fix only God can. Am I ok and have you ever even heard of anyone in your years getting anything transferable from the described activities. 
44 months ago
Can't sleep from my stupidity again. The only thing I failed to add is I felt her getting wet when I fingered her which makes me worry more as I have a few minor cuts from fingernail bitting as I said. Any reason to worry other than my guilt and shame and given your long time experience would. u abstain from sex with your long time wife? Thanks and sorry to ramble
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
Welcome back to the Forum.  This was a no risk event, not just for HIV BUT FOR STIs too.  No risk from receipt of masturbaton,  masturbation of a partner, or from getting her genital secretions on your hands and fingers.  Cuts on your hands and nails make no difference.   No need for concern, no need for testing of any sort, and no need to abstain from sex with your wife.  EWH---
44 months ago
You are always so supportive and straight forward with your answers and you put it so easily to understand. Thanks for that.

A quick follow up, kissing but not deep I presume ok? And while she danced twice with panties on she pushed her vagina to my lips. I'm pretty confident my lips did not touch her vagina skin to skin.

Just making sure Mr Stupid is ok. Thanks Doc 

Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
Correct- no risk of any STI from kissing, including deep kissing.

Also, no STIs are transmitted through clothing, even sheer underwear which might have become wet with genital secretions.  Still no risk and no need for testing.

No need to be so self-deprecating, just as there is no need for worry.  EWH 
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44 months ago
Last follow up and I appreciate what you do! Likely undervalued.

If by some chance my lips touched part of her vagina skin to skin but no insertion by tongue etc ok? Thanks I'm out
Edward W. Hook M.D.
Edward W. Hook M.D.
44 months ago
In the unlikely event that your lips touched her vagina while receiving your "lap" dance, still no risk.  No penetration, no risk.

As you note, this will complete this thread and it will be closed in a few hours.  EWH
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