[Question #3060] Clarify on massage

38 months ago
Dear Doctor, I hope you will give me an answer of two.  It is my Birthday and stressing out about a couple things about the encounter i had.  To summarize, had a massage and she probed my anus with her finger without protection.  I have since gone back and asked her if I need to be worried about anything and in her broken English she has said "you no worry" (Korean i think).  I explained to her my situation and with google translate she said she plays safe and "no worry".  I have to take comfort in that somewhat, but I need your insight on just a couple of things.
1) I had sex with my wife today, should I be worried at all for her health?
2)I have not experienced any symptoms of ARS, maybe just an upset stomach, but nothing other.  Should i be on the lookout for anything else?
3) I have read countless articles where it says that there is  neglible risk but you say none, do i need to worry at all from your persprective?
4)I am hoping to believe her but the stress of it and my churning stomach give me doublts.  Do I need to test, and if so when?
5)If you had ANY doubts at all would you convey them here and advise otherwise?

I really hope you can give me a little comfort on my Birthday here.  I know, this exposure seems trivial to you and others but monumental to me.
Thanks a bunch.
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
38 months ago
Sigh. Happy birthday. But all these questions were addressed, directly or indirectly, in your previous thread. Asking again in different words will not change the answers, so I see no need to repeat them, except to say the answer is no to all five questions. From an earlier thread of yours:  "Repetative anxiety driven questions are not permitted on the forum. This is your last thread. If you ask another, it will be deleted without reply, and without refund of the posting fee. This policy protects people from themselves (not wasting money on questions with preivous or obvious answers), and also other users, who gain no educational benefit, one of the main purposes of the forum." You were also reminded of it when we closed your other thread three days ago.

There will be no opportunity for discussion. Future similar questions WILL be deleted without reply and without refund of the posting fee. If you remain concerned, you should go back and carefully read your own questions and the replies you had in all your previous threads. The answers already are there.

Really, your fears are not rational. Do not confuse your emotional reaction to a sexual decision you regret with disease risk from that decision. They aren't the same. Deal with the former as you need to -- perhaps with professional counseling. (Your fears really are beyond normal, given the repeated science-based advice you have had.) I suggest it from compassion not criticism. But you can and should forget about any possibility of infection risk.