Me and my wife both have ( genital ) HSV2. We would like to start  performing unprotected oral sex or each other. I’ve read it was a low risk, but that’s not clear enough for me. What are the  risk factors in  spreading  it to your mouth?

The risks are INCREDIBLY low - and here's why.  First,it is highly unusual, once you have a well established infection, to get that same virus in a new location on your  body. Second,HSV 2 does not like the mouth area at all and rarely shows up there or recurs there or sheds from there. Have you ever had a cold sore? If yes, this will look just like that should you get it orally, which I don't believe you will.  So you can see that this combination of facts suggest that you should enjoy oral sex with each other without any real concern about HSV 2.

Terri
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No, we’ve never had a cold sore.  We have had HSV2 for 15 year. I may or may not get an outbreak once a year, but my wife gets more  frequent outbreaks right before, or after her cycle, but not every time.

My previous message stands then.  I would strongly suggest that you not worry about this and practice whatever sort of sexual contacts you would like to have without worry.  The odds of you getting this in a new place is so small!

Terri
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