[Question #338] How it is spread

35 months ago
Hello, so I've herpes for years now, and I was seeing a guy and recently we had gotten closer. He's kissed me on the cheek a couole if times and I kissed him on his neck once or twice, we have also been in contact with private areas over our clothing only. So my question is if I put him at risk doing those things with him. Or if it is only direct kissing and genital contact that I should avoid having.
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
35 months ago
You say that you've had herpes - is that genital or oral herpes?
Either way, what you've done does not put him at risk of acquiring herpes. 
And if you have only genital herpes then kissing is no risk whatsoever, nor is you giving him oral sex. 

Terri
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35 months ago
You know, once I got my blood results that I had herpes, I just stopped any and all sexual contact with another person. I don't even really remember which type it was. I've never had any type of outbreaks anywhere, and I had always been fine donating blood before hand, was blind to it, so I don't even have a clue of when I contracted it. I will have to make a doctor's appointment to get that information, I haven't been in any situations where I thought about it until now. So but now with this guy, I wasn't sure if any of this was okay, especially when I kissed his neck I stopped and wondered. Me leaving my saliva on his neck would spread it to him? And even us rubbing against each other with our clothes on is not a risk?
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
Terri Warren, RN, Nurse Practitioner
35 months ago
Lisa, you need to get clear about your herpes status.  You don't need to see a clinician for that information any more.  You can order your own herpes IgG antibody test online in a number of locations.  This is not something that is tested for in blood donation.  If you have HSV 1, so does 56% of the population and probably this partner does too.  Get more information before worrying too much and you can post your results here for me to review and we can sort out what to do next.  No, kissing him on the neck if not a risk or rubbing together with clothes on.  You might ask him if he has ever had a cold sore on his lip.

Terri
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