[Question #3576] General Inquiry

36 months ago
Hi Doctor,
I have few general questions that derive from the incident that happened last week. I don't think there is anything to be concerned about, but I need some clarification -
Incident: Accompanied a friend to a strip club, and all I did was chatting with one of the strippers with my hands on her thighs and shoulder, and when I was about to leave, unexpectdly, she placed a small peck on the side of my lips almost touching them.


1) I went to urinate afterwards (5-10 mins) and I held my Penis with the same hands that I touched her with. Should I worry about HIV keeping in mind that there might me some cut on her thigh or shoulders, and the blood may have come on my hands?

2) I do work with homeless people for charity, and sometimes I shake hands with them. I drink a lot of water in the day and hence I pee a lot, so should I carefully look at my hands for any visible blood if I need to pee afterwards? Any HIV risk here?

3) I don't think the kiss was a risk event. Correct?

4) I am in a dilemma - there is a lady that I want to date, but I am not sure about her history. She is a divorcee. I somehow find it rude to ask her to get tested and if everything is Ok, wait for another 6 weeks (to cover the last incident, if any) and then get tested again. This applies to all the possible STDs that may exist.

5) Is a RAPID alere combo test conclusive at 6 weeks?

I understand most of these questions are derived from my anxiety about HIV, and I am trying a lot not to question you frequently. Please do respond to my queries.


H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
H. Hunter Handsfield, MD
36 months ago
Once again you are back with a question (your ninth) about an obviously zero risk situation in regard to HIV, despite being informed about the policy (repeated below). Waiting a few months between questions doesn't change the rules or the answers. HIV is not transmitted by nonsexual personal contact, including touching genital areas, breasts, etc, or by kissing. You know it and shouldn't need to hear it repeatedly.

Please note that the forum does not permit repeated questions on the same topic or exposure, especially when the questions are obviously driven by anxiety or when there is apparently difficulty in believing or accepting advice already given. This will have to be your last one; future questions on this topic or about obviously low risk exposures will be receive no reply and the posting fee will not be refunded. This policy is based on compassion, not criticism, and is designed to reduce the temptation to keep paying for questions with obvious answers. In addition, experience shows that continued answers tend to prolong users’ anxieties, when professional counseling often would be a better approach. Finally, repeat or anxiety driven questions have little educational value for other users, one of the forum’s main purposes. Thank you for your understanding.